"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long hair?

kandyass

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Don't know if this is a stupid question but...I'm growing my hair long just to see what it looks like. I've had really short hair all my life and I don't feel that comfortable with long hair...however all my female friends say it looks good and better than when my hair is short.

Should I consider this advice (and women's advice on clothes and appearance in general) to be as useless as their romantic advice?

Or is following their advice on fashion for guys a good idea?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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Most times, i would recomend taking fashion and hairstyle advice from women.... They really do pay attention to that stuff and know what looks good on a guy.

Just don't wear something you don't like, even if they say it looks great. Find a style that is you, first and formost.
 

seanchai

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Develop a sense of your own fashion. Girls can help at this, but there's a belief that all girls are automatically good at fashion, one that they gladly propagate. My girlfriend is proof that this is false.

Long hair is like porn star. This is what I think.
 

splinterkb

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Long hair is ****ty, and makes you look trashy. Don't grow long hair.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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reyalp

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there is a trend coming around regarding long hair in men

just look at Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Cruise, Antonio Banderas and Viggo Mortensen

whether this works for you, remains to be seen. hollywood stars could rub **** on their face and they'd still have a line 2 miles long of people willing to sleep with them, so don't take it as gospel.
 

dannyc

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dude ive got long hair, it looks pretty much like ashton kutchers. Who gives a fuk if long hair looks gay, if thats what suits you, keep it.

I can tell you, i always had long hair since i was about 11 and then the summer before senior year i cut it short, got like a spikyish sort of style. First day of school, everyones like 'damn, you cut your hair, ahhhh!!!11'. 2 girls told me straight out 'it sucks'. Man i remember one girl looking at me like i was some monster going 'you cut your hair?' That day was a nightmare and all i did is cut my damn hair. I obviously then grew my hair back and didnt look back! I dont know why but short hair just doesnt suit me, i look like a whole different guy

basically my point is do what suits you, if long hair is for you, keep it.
 
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