You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Exactly, that's what I'm saying, if your a decent looking guy you shouldn't have any trouble with it, but God_of_getting_layed_by_fat_men (that's 'laid' BTW, retard) fails to see that point. Like a lot of the guys responding to the thread, long hair has hardly been a handicap, and we've had more sucess with our hair longer... I, personally, on a semi-frequent occasion, wear my hair turcked under a beanie when I go out and I have MUCH more sucess pulling interest from girls when my hair is in view.seanchai said:Dude, I don't think you're ever going to prove the idea that long hair is unattractive to these guys who have had a lot of success with it. Maybe short hair is more attractive, maybe they'd have more success if they cut their long clean hair, but you're not getting anywhere telling them they aren't going to be successful with that long hair.
It's like me telling an interrogator that waterboarding isn't a viable technique. That might be my opinion, there might be evidence to support it, but his experience is different.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Actually, my logic goes like this: I wear my hair down, I pull pvssy like crazy... I hide my hair under a benie, girls don't seem to notice or care. End of story. There you go. So, I'm not a c0cksucker, just a long haired jack@ss that gets his c0ck sucked thanks to my long locks. So why again should I cut it if it's getting me laid?God_of_getting_layed said:archaxis,
if your jack@ss logic is true, then when a woman with a shaved head dresses feminine and girly girl, her shaved head should no longer be perceived as masculine.
The fact is, she can put on all the make up she wants, and be as paris hilton girly girl pink as she can, and her shaved head will still be seen as masculine.
I call that a contridiction to your logic ya long haired c0cksucker.
NIIIICE QUOOOOOTEFallen33 said:Because what does long hair with no balls make you? Do the math.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I'd like to see those studies, surveys and polls please. In lieu of that, I recommend we have Gogl here set up some survey parameters and distribute this so we can find out once and for all.God_of_getting_layed said:studies, surveys and polls have been done on this. The concensus is MOST BUT NOT ALL fvcking hate guys with girl long hair.
you get more women with your hair down?Archaxis said:Actually, my logic goes like this: I wear my hair down, I pull pvssy like crazy... I hide my hair under a benie, girls don't seem to notice or care. End of story. There you go. So, I'm not a c0cksucker, just a long haired jack@ss that gets his c0ck sucked thanks to my long locks. So why again should I cut it if it's getting me laid?So far as I can tell, it's your logic thats flawed.
studies, surveys and polls have been done on this. The concensus is MOST BUT NOT ALL fvcking hate guys with girl long hair.Athens said:There's not a standard that says girls like or dislike a particular length of hair by default. I've been growing my hair out for several months now and and I have never looked better. And it's not just unkempt hair, I arrange it to make it look good.
In the end, women prefer good looking guys with confidence. You can be good looking and confident no matter your hair length. Some guys facial structure, like mine, is just suited more to longer hair. It accents my jawline and the shape of my head, and I more chicks fawn over me because of it. I don't go one day without getting complimented by girls. So as long as you can make your long hair look good, it'll work for you.
And yeah I am a musician.
just work it so it doesn't look like a helmet and you'll be fine.supajsilver2 said:me.
good example of shaggy look or no? i understand ginger is tough to work with in the first place but this seems to do pretty nice. it's naturally very curly like that, also.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
lol, If your skeptical about what I posted, then you have to be brain dead. seriously.seanchai said:I'd like to see those studies, surveys and polls please. In lieu of that, I recommend we have Gogl here set up some survey parameters and distribute this so we can find out once and for all.
Example:
Do you (CHECK ONE):
[ ] Hate guys with long hair
[ ] Fvcking hate guys with long hair
[ ] Fvcking hate guys with girl long hair
[ ] Guys with long hair ARE girls
skip2mylou781 said:OKAY everyone except for God of geting laid, SHUT UP NOW
Take a guy, lets say he is 21, 6'0, 180 lbs, good build, nice face structure, basically has the goods to be a hottie in the eyes of the TYPICAL HOT WOMAN. (u know, the kind of woman that u jerk off too when ur home and need some release).
Are you guy sSERIOUSLY saying that if i was to give this guy LONG hair, that it would make his chances better of having girls attracted to him as opposed to giving him SHORT hair??? like, are u SERIOUSLY KIDDING ME??? Long (girlish long, not shaggy, but simply LONG) is 1 of the ugliest things that ALWAYS ruins how good a guy looks from the shoulders up. With short hair, this guy i just described could be a 8/10 or 9/10, he would b wat hot girls would look at and say "wow he is so handsome!!!"
with long hair (down to shoulders), hot girls would look at him and say "ok wowwww hes got sucha nice body and build, but he has GOT to do somethin with his hair!!!!"
just PICTURE it seriously
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.