"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Any advice here would be helpful. Here's my situation. About 8 or 9 months ago I moved from Tennessee to Texas. Right before I moved I met a girl who we will call Mixie. We hit it off and got along well, but never really had any kind of relationship because I knew I was leaving. Well, about a week ago I went to go visit my friends back home. When I got to town I ran into Mixie. We went out on a date and ended up having quite a bit of "fun". Here's the issue. In 9 months I'm moving permanently back into my old town and Mixie knows this. She's always talking to me online telling me about how she can't wait till I get back so she can see me and we can be together. She even told one of her friends that she wanted to move in with me. Here is my concern: should I really be communicating with her frequently while I'm this far away? I don't want to fall into the dreaded friends zone before I even get back. Is there any way I can stay in contact with her so that she doesn't forget I exist, yet keep from becoming one of those "really nice guys"?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Really? Every couple of days? That seems a bit overly frequent to me...
 
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Your going back in 9 months? Call her maybe every couple weeks, keep it short-ish and fun on the phone. Don't answer her emails immediately. Keep it a bit of a mystery, and when you get back, hook up.
 
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When you do talk to her tell her some things you've been doing even if it isn't true, but leave out details. Always have a good story that involves a women who was flirting with you or atleast couldn't keep her eyes off you from a distance. She'll get green eyes and want you even more.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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