"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

long distance relationship - how to communicate

theposter

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 21, 2007
Messages
13
Reaction score
0
Hey all,
So I'm in college and over this past Christmas break got together with a girl from my high school. The thing is we live 1000 miles apart, and obviously that limits my options. The last time I saw her was when she came to visit during her spring break, and before that I had only spend 4 days with her (two at her apartment with just the two of us, and the others hanging out with mutual friends). I will admit that I'm nothing special in bed, and am probably a 7, but I think she's more into my personality and especially the way I treat her (****y and funny with lots of sarcasm). She's offered to let me move in with her and had discussed staying together after we graduate, and I feel the same but have tried not to let on as much as she has.

Well anyways, we have talked virtually every single day since I flew home after christmas, but 99% of that has been over AIM or text messages. It's always a mix of me messing with her, talking about ourselves and current events, and talking about what we'll do when we're together again. Since she left to go home after seeing me for her spring break a few weeks ago, we've talked on the phone in bed once a week, and I plan on sticking to that routine until we're together for the summer. I asked her if she typically dumps boyfriends or gets dumped and she claims that the two real boyfriends she's had in the past (real being more than a month, she says) got dumped because they stopped paying attention to her. I want to give her all my attention but know I shouldn't, but how much is too little?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
LDRs are typically a royal pain to sustain if there isn't a solid, in-person foundation already established. Distance is not the best manner in which to get to know a person.
 

lebRambo

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2005
Messages
715
Reaction score
3
dude, you are in COLLEGE. You will never again be surrounded by this many hot, intelligent women as likely to fvck you as you are right now. Start fvcking!
 

Memorex

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2007
Messages
13
Reaction score
0
lebRambo said:
dude, you are in COLLEGE. You will never again be surrounded by this many hot, intelligent women as likely to fvck you as you are right now. Start fvcking!
Dont listin to that scrub

Texting everyday and talking on AIM isnt what you should be doing. Talk everyother or every three days to make her miss you some so you dont talk about the same boring conversations everyday. This semester is almost over and you'll be able to communicate a lot more since you will be together over the summer.

Just lay off the talking a little for the next week or two (however long your Finals week is) and keep busy (study, gym, hobbies, whatever...). But dont ignore her. If she text you just keep it short.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top