"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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long distance relationship - how to communicate

theposter

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Hey all,
So I'm in college and over this past Christmas break got together with a girl from my high school. The thing is we live 1000 miles apart, and obviously that limits my options. The last time I saw her was when she came to visit during her spring break, and before that I had only spend 4 days with her (two at her apartment with just the two of us, and the others hanging out with mutual friends). I will admit that I'm nothing special in bed, and am probably a 7, but I think she's more into my personality and especially the way I treat her (****y and funny with lots of sarcasm). She's offered to let me move in with her and had discussed staying together after we graduate, and I feel the same but have tried not to let on as much as she has.

Well anyways, we have talked virtually every single day since I flew home after christmas, but 99% of that has been over AIM or text messages. It's always a mix of me messing with her, talking about ourselves and current events, and talking about what we'll do when we're together again. Since she left to go home after seeing me for her spring break a few weeks ago, we've talked on the phone in bed once a week, and I plan on sticking to that routine until we're together for the summer. I asked her if she typically dumps boyfriends or gets dumped and she claims that the two real boyfriends she's had in the past (real being more than a month, she says) got dumped because they stopped paying attention to her. I want to give her all my attention but know I shouldn't, but how much is too little?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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LDRs are typically a royal pain to sustain if there isn't a solid, in-person foundation already established. Distance is not the best manner in which to get to know a person.
 

lebRambo

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dude, you are in COLLEGE. You will never again be surrounded by this many hot, intelligent women as likely to fvck you as you are right now. Start fvcking!
 

Memorex

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lebRambo said:
dude, you are in COLLEGE. You will never again be surrounded by this many hot, intelligent women as likely to fvck you as you are right now. Start fvcking!
Dont listin to that scrub

Texting everyday and talking on AIM isnt what you should be doing. Talk everyother or every three days to make her miss you some so you dont talk about the same boring conversations everyday. This semester is almost over and you'll be able to communicate a lot more since you will be together over the summer.

Just lay off the talking a little for the next week or two (however long your Finals week is) and keep busy (study, gym, hobbies, whatever...). But dont ignore her. If she text you just keep it short.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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