Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Long Distance, Don't Want To Ruin It

stickboy

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Well, I've gotten myself tied up in a long distant relationship, but I am loving it. She lives the next city over (about 4 hours away)

I will not be seeing again till December... we've never seen each other since we both shared our feelings. Now our conversations are getting pretty hot.... and I have a feeling that we are going to be all over each other when we see each other next... We use to be friends though... so would it be a good idea to lay a lot down... or still take it a bit slow? I really do not want to ruin this.

This is somebody that I love, and could see marrying. It's not just a one night stand or some really hot chick, or else I wouldn't even bother with a long distant relationship.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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OneArmDeeJay

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Ah yes good ol long distance. I remember that time. Time I wished I almost never wasted :rolleyes:

My man,

If you Don't want to screw things up well don't call so much.

And don't talk on the phone, IM, and writing email so much.

Here this is what I learned from my experience in a LTR/LDR.

http://jconserv.net/djltr/viewtopic.php?t=113

Man your situation is almost the exactly the same when I was in a LTR/LDR.

I will tell you this that it's a lot of work and trust put into this kind of relationship. You can't afford being AFC or insecurities.
 

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Great post onearmeddeejay! I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm in the same position you were in.

One piece of advice that I would give to stickboy though is, make sure you stick to the DJ principals. The rules of attraction still apply in LTR's. Make sure you remain mysterious, ****y, etc... and don't fall into a routine.

You still have to act like your the prize, sometimes don't call when your suppose to. Make sure she knows that you still have a life away from her.
 

TxCowboy

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Originally posted by stickboy
She lives the next city over (about 4 hours away)
I will not be seeing again till December...
That is a long a$$ time from now dude ... plus 4 hrs away.... If you can swing it, go for it bud

You may run into some other chick between now and then and vice versa with her
 

comic_relief

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I've been in a two and a half hour LDR for the past couple months. Believe me, it is tough but if you can handle it, then you will have a very rewarding expience on your hands.

Mine is very good and I love every minute of it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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