Long distance communication

[Pinkerton991]

All,

I'm new to this board, so bare with me if I don't get all of the lingo yet (acronyms and such).

I met this girl through the internet (match to be specific) a couple weeks back. We were exchanging messages for 2-3 weeks before we finally met two weeks ago. The reason it took so long was a combination of holidays, my work schedule (70-80 hour work weeks), and her finals schedule (she's a grad student at a local university). We are both 25.

I saw her one more time at a party she threw to celebrate finishing her finals and so forth. I made it a point to talk to all of her friends, didn't follow her around, etc. I would say that things were going well. She flew home the next day and doesn't fly back until mid-January '10. Home is also literally across the country.

Where I am hoping to get input involves communication between now and when she gets back into town. Basically what I am trying to achieve is a balance of communication where her interest stays high, I don't appear eager, and I don't fall into the friend zone. I am trying to limit e-mail communication because I feel its very impersonal. I normally have a fairly effective system for this situation, but the distance variable basically throws everything off.

Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.

 

[vitor]

Hmm I would maybe email or text once a week to keep in touch, maybe a merry xmas, or happy new year text and then around a day or two before she is due to come home call and ask her out. Just control yourself dont fall into her call me, email me, text me trap..

 

[Pinkerton991]

.....dont fall into her call me, email me, text me trap..

She's actually tried that a couple times already without success. Most recently, she sent me 5 texts this past Saturday night and I didn't respond to any of them, mostly due to a personal rule I have with responding to "potentials" when I have been drinking (i.e. I don't do it).

I guess I'm also trying to balance this so I don't lose her interest. It was sky-high when she left and it would be nice if I could keep it that high through her flight back....

 

[vitor]

The more you say without seeing her the less she will want you and you will say/do something that bothers her more than likely. I am not one to lie but make up a few reasons why you are so busy and how much fun you are having, your skiing, going to a bunch of xmas partys, blah blah blah MR excitment, you are not at home watching DVD's looking at porn waiting for her to come home..

 

[Pinkerton991]

Yeah that's what I figured. I haven't really talked to her much since she left, short of two or three texts and an e-mail that I sent Saturday, which was basically geared toward sending some pictures of the recent east-coast snowstorm more than checking in.

My inclination was to basically let her contact me up until she comes back but I wasn't 100% sure that was the right move. You confirmed it. Thanks.