You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
that's one way of paying off the morgage.The challenger said:
spider_007 said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That never inspired me, don't know why. Call me selfish, or self centered, it's just the way it is. My problems are most important to me.My Name is Nobody said:
yea, your right...I put up a profile on line see if I can get anything.....well lets just say i suck, and i couldn't even get an reply......My Name is Nobody said:
Join the club. Out of 30 emails I just sent I got 1 reply.spider_007 said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That's why some guys who get it from prostitutes keep going back. The only real cure for loneliness is to look into youurself see what you need to fix then do it. As your self confidence grows you'll take more risks and women will notice. This may go against what a lot of people on this forum would like to hear and I'm a new guy myself but that won't stop me from saying it: I believe that there is someone for everyone. The thing is you have to work to find her (and from her point of view work to find him). That's why people should never just settle for what they think they can get.spider_007 said: