Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
that's one way of paying off the morgage.The challenger said:
spider_007 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That never inspired me, don't know why. Call me selfish, or self centered, it's just the way it is. My problems are most important to me.My Name is Nobody said:
yea, your right...I put up a profile on line see if I can get anything.....well lets just say i suck, and i couldn't even get an reply......My Name is Nobody said:
Join the club. Out of 30 emails I just sent I got 1 reply.spider_007 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That's why some guys who get it from prostitutes keep going back. The only real cure for loneliness is to look into youurself see what you need to fix then do it. As your self confidence grows you'll take more risks and women will notice. This may go against what a lot of people on this forum would like to hear and I'm a new guy myself but that won't stop me from saying it: I believe that there is someone for everyone. The thing is you have to work to find her (and from her point of view work to find him). That's why people should never just settle for what they think they can get.spider_007 said: