"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LOL so I couldn't get it up...

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So I'm at my house with this girl.

We're watching a movie, and before you know it, we're making out.

So one thing led to another, and we're about to sex. And I wasn't hard enough, and I couldn't GET hard enough. Eventually I had to bring her home so we had to stop.

So, I'm a bit embarrassed, as this is the first time this has ever happened to me, and kind of mystified. Especially being a 17 year old with "raging hormones" that decided to take a break that afternoon.

The girl was pretty understanding, and not upset at all. To my knowledge.

I'm thinking that it could have been me being a little anxious/nervous due to the fact that my dad was home and that I was expecting him to fly through the door to see what's up, and catch us romping in the sheets.

Anyway, anyone have any good method on how to deal with this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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only time i couldnt get hard was when ive been drinking...might be a mental thing though
 

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happens to all guys one in awhile....its not a problem unless its constant

how to deal with what happened? don't draw any attention to what happened, try again next time :)
 

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Should I call her or text her at all tonight?

And my freakin' dad is SUCH a ****block.

EDIT: lol a few minutes after posting she sends me "hey sexy how was work?"

So I guess I'm back on track, and it's not that big of a deal :D
 

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Im trying to understand this situation better before it happens to me becasue it seems like it does happen to guys.


Would getting dome help you out? or was she not game for that.

Its just perplexing to me how the situation can go from about to have sex to "yeeeea im just gunna take you home now cuz I cant get up."

I just cant wrap my mind around this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Guy I have been there... it sucks balls when that **** happens...

but its because one of two things:
A. medication
B. You're subconsciencly intimidated by the ole girl.

I will explain both situations:
1. the first time I had just met this cute lil blonde out in the boonies with a friend... had her butt naked in the back seat of my bro's dad's van within 3 hours of meeting her. I was just shocked by all the suddeness of the situation, couldnt get hard... she was way to agressive for my taste.

2. I had an ex (girl before last girl) in my bed and we started getting it on, I couldnt get hard, I realized I couldnt get hard for **** at will just randomly.. it sucked... I had just started taking a controlled medication not even a week earlier that was the reason. Next day went straight to the ****ing docs and was prescribed Viagra him knowing the situation.

Being 19 Viagra ain't a bad move though lol
 

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It's not a big deal.

It happens from time to time. Ever think you have to go to the bathroom and you go and you can't? It's not that much different. You probably were too anxious or nervous. Don't worry about it too much.
 

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john paul said:
Im trying to understand this situation better before it happens to me becasue it seems like it does happen to guys.


Would getting dome help you out? or was she not game for that.

Its just perplexing to me how the situation can go from about to have sex to "yeeeea im just gunna take you home now cuz I cant get up."

I just cant wrap my mind around this.
lol "dome"

yeah, I told her to put it in her mouth. No go. (condom was already on though, and i couldn't feel ****)

but next time, everything will go great, assuming my parent's aren't home :D
 

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Vice said:
lol "dome"

yeah, I told her to put it in her mouth. No go. (condom was already on though, and i couldn't feel ****)

but next time, everything will go great, assuming my parent's aren't home :D
You put the condom on soft? Maybe there was not enough foreplay, next time get her to suck it for a while to warm you up. One of my friends told me he had to get a BJ for about a half hour when he lost his virginity just to get a full erection.

Also, maybe it was the condom. Before I was with my gf and hit it raw I had a lot of problems staying aroused with condoms, as they take away tons of sensation. Felt like my **** was being suffocated. Lube your sh*t up more next time, jerk yourself alittle, anything to arouse yourself.
 

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johnies do that to me aswell. can get it up but it soon goes again. I f**king hate johnies :( also tirednes, stress, uncomfortable with yer old man being in the house blah balh blah. no worries mate. try again soon ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheBaconator said:
You put the condom on soft? Maybe there was not enough foreplay, next time get her to suck it for a while to warm you up. One of my friends told me he had to get a BJ for about a half hour when he lost his virginity just to get a full erection.

Also, maybe it was the condom. Before I was with my gf and hit it raw I had a lot of problems staying aroused with condoms, as they take away tons of sensation. Felt like my **** was being suffocated. Lube your sh*t up more next time, jerk yourself alittle, anything to arouse yourself.
Could it be also you're not attracted to the girl? I had no problems without the condom but then when I tried to put it on everything died on me. I had the girl give a hand job with the condom on for first time and nothing happened. Hate to say but I was kind of bored.
 
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