"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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LOL so I couldn't get it up...

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So I'm at my house with this girl.

We're watching a movie, and before you know it, we're making out.

So one thing led to another, and we're about to sex. And I wasn't hard enough, and I couldn't GET hard enough. Eventually I had to bring her home so we had to stop.

So, I'm a bit embarrassed, as this is the first time this has ever happened to me, and kind of mystified. Especially being a 17 year old with "raging hormones" that decided to take a break that afternoon.

The girl was pretty understanding, and not upset at all. To my knowledge.

I'm thinking that it could have been me being a little anxious/nervous due to the fact that my dad was home and that I was expecting him to fly through the door to see what's up, and catch us romping in the sheets.

Anyway, anyone have any good method on how to deal with this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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only time i couldnt get hard was when ive been drinking...might be a mental thing though
 

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happens to all guys one in awhile....its not a problem unless its constant

how to deal with what happened? don't draw any attention to what happened, try again next time :)
 

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Should I call her or text her at all tonight?

And my freakin' dad is SUCH a ****block.

EDIT: lol a few minutes after posting she sends me "hey sexy how was work?"

So I guess I'm back on track, and it's not that big of a deal :D
 

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Im trying to understand this situation better before it happens to me becasue it seems like it does happen to guys.


Would getting dome help you out? or was she not game for that.

Its just perplexing to me how the situation can go from about to have sex to "yeeeea im just gunna take you home now cuz I cant get up."

I just cant wrap my mind around this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Guy I have been there... it sucks balls when that **** happens...

but its because one of two things:
A. medication
B. You're subconsciencly intimidated by the ole girl.

I will explain both situations:
1. the first time I had just met this cute lil blonde out in the boonies with a friend... had her butt naked in the back seat of my bro's dad's van within 3 hours of meeting her. I was just shocked by all the suddeness of the situation, couldnt get hard... she was way to agressive for my taste.

2. I had an ex (girl before last girl) in my bed and we started getting it on, I couldnt get hard, I realized I couldnt get hard for **** at will just randomly.. it sucked... I had just started taking a controlled medication not even a week earlier that was the reason. Next day went straight to the ****ing docs and was prescribed Viagra him knowing the situation.

Being 19 Viagra ain't a bad move though lol
 

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It's not a big deal.

It happens from time to time. Ever think you have to go to the bathroom and you go and you can't? It's not that much different. You probably were too anxious or nervous. Don't worry about it too much.
 

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john paul said:
Im trying to understand this situation better before it happens to me becasue it seems like it does happen to guys.


Would getting dome help you out? or was she not game for that.

Its just perplexing to me how the situation can go from about to have sex to "yeeeea im just gunna take you home now cuz I cant get up."

I just cant wrap my mind around this.
lol "dome"

yeah, I told her to put it in her mouth. No go. (condom was already on though, and i couldn't feel ****)

but next time, everything will go great, assuming my parent's aren't home :D
 

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Vice said:
lol "dome"

yeah, I told her to put it in her mouth. No go. (condom was already on though, and i couldn't feel ****)

but next time, everything will go great, assuming my parent's aren't home :D
You put the condom on soft? Maybe there was not enough foreplay, next time get her to suck it for a while to warm you up. One of my friends told me he had to get a BJ for about a half hour when he lost his virginity just to get a full erection.

Also, maybe it was the condom. Before I was with my gf and hit it raw I had a lot of problems staying aroused with condoms, as they take away tons of sensation. Felt like my **** was being suffocated. Lube your sh*t up more next time, jerk yourself alittle, anything to arouse yourself.
 

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johnies do that to me aswell. can get it up but it soon goes again. I f**king hate johnies :( also tirednes, stress, uncomfortable with yer old man being in the house blah balh blah. no worries mate. try again soon ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheBaconator said:
You put the condom on soft? Maybe there was not enough foreplay, next time get her to suck it for a while to warm you up. One of my friends told me he had to get a BJ for about a half hour when he lost his virginity just to get a full erection.

Also, maybe it was the condom. Before I was with my gf and hit it raw I had a lot of problems staying aroused with condoms, as they take away tons of sensation. Felt like my **** was being suffocated. Lube your sh*t up more next time, jerk yourself alittle, anything to arouse yourself.
Could it be also you're not attracted to the girl? I had no problems without the condom but then when I tried to put it on everything died on me. I had the girl give a hand job with the condom on for first time and nothing happened. Hate to say but I was kind of bored.
 
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