"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LOL. Silence is the most effective way of communication

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So I'm in the train station at 12:30 about to go home & I see this petite light skinned chick that I've been seeing ride the train & bus with me for the past few months. She's cute but nothing amazing, she's got some boobs(not that much) but little to no booty. I say to myself, well nothing better to do, walk over & say hi.

So said so done....

Her response: ......................................*walks away*

HOLD DAT

Fight Announcer: KO!!!!

I just stood there & laughed to myself. Then I checked myself & realized I'm still alive & everything is the same as before I approached.

Now since I got in the train station pretty late(because I was at work talking to this guy) & I'm used to seeing her on earlier rides I could have asked if she missed the train as well. Meh.....I know full well I'm not ready for this but I'm still trying to bust out of my comfort zone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kirro said:
So I'm in the train station at 12:30 about to go home & I see this petite light skinned chick that I've been seeing ride the train & bus with me for the past few months. She's cute but nothing amazing, she's got some boobs(not that much) but little to no booty. I say to myself, well nothing better to do, walk over & say hi.

So said so done....

Her response: ......................................*walks away*

HOLD DAT

Fight Announcer: KO!!!!

I just stood there & laughed to myself. Then I checked myself & realized I'm still alive & everything is the same as before I approached.

Now since I got in the train station pretty late(because I was at work talking to this guy) & I'm used to seeing her on earlier rides I could have asked if she missed the train as well. Meh.....I know full well I'm not ready for this but I'm still trying to bust out of my comfort zone.
Me and my friends in college, we used to play a game where you'd go up to some girls, and use the worst (or the best) lines you could think of, just for the hell of it. We'd buy whoever got the most failures in a night a drink. Once or twice, my boys actually got laid.

For me, personally, openers and clever stuff... it's always just clever talk and such. My dancing, my fiction (I'm a writer), and my overall ease with physical touch (which I learned through lots and lots of training sessions of getting shot down) are what really get my foot in the door. Or rather, my P in the va-gee.

**EDIT**
To be clear, I can't think of a single time where lines alone got me laid. However - being funny and easy overall will get anyone to trust you more. I'm sure there's research that says the same. Someone look into it.
 

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Well at least you were on the platform. I got off at the wrong station on purpose to follow/talk to this girl cuz inside the train was very crowded. As soon i reach street level i tap her from behind and said " saw you on the train and wanted to introduce myself xxxxxxx"

She basically put her ipod back on and left me there talking to myself. Had to go back down and wait for the next train .

Rejection better than regret.
 

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Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger man!
 

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@Loveshogun - I'm not fond of gimmicks or canned material. I know I have great conversational skills, I'm articulate, confident & I do have a sense of humour I just have a fear of approaching women. As you can see in my latest topics I'm forcing myself out there so I get used to it. I have no particular plan or outcome when I talk to girls, I just talk & wing it. Eventually it will come together.

@ Tiguere -Ouch man, I wonder if high value dudes did this to fatties & UGs if they'd take it as well as you did. However yeah I'm glad I finally said something even if it accomplished nothing. I was going to spend the entire day sarging but I overslept so I'm stuck home on one of my off days. Imma eat some more rejections as time goes by. I'm not ready, I'm not strong enough if anyway shape or form for this. This game is going to eat me alive but somehow its fun fighting a losing battle.

EDIT - @Alex - Thanks bro. I have got a lot of toughening up to do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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