"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LOL my sisters....

escaleraroyal

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pdx1138 said:
ha ha yeah actually.

one could lose a few lbs but looks great for 30

the other looks great for 40 and is happily married to a millionaire. :)
not really interested girl older than 29...thanks though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Not once in my life have I ever had success trying to pull the relationship trigger. Every time it's her. She's got to be the one who wants it, seeks it, desires it, and you have to gladly take her under the wing.

I am not doubting for some men pursuing the relationship has worked ; but I would say MOST times it does not -- because if SHE is apprehensive, there is something WITHOLDING the flowing of her emotional closeness to you -- and that's bad!

pdx I would say let her come to you!
 

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agreed Buddha.

She's already met me whole family (they really like her) and she really likes them.
I've met both her brothers and her best friend. They like me.

I also introduced her to one of my relatives as my "girlfriend"

she can bring up the exclusive talk...I've done my part.
 
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