LOL my sisters....

[pdx1138]

Around the dinner table last night, saying it's "up to me"
to drop the exclusivity line to my new girlfriend.

ME: uh no. it's up to her to do that.

Sister1: you gotta tell her some time soon.

Me: not gonna do it. She has to bring it up.

Sister2: you have to be the one to bring it up...otherwise a woman keeps thinking about it.

ME: exactly! gotta keep that hamster spinning.

Sister2: ???

Sister1: you're wrong about this

ME: I know 100 guys that disagree (referencing but not naming this forum ha ha)

ME: ok, no more about this...I can't talk about fight club anymore...

Sister1 & 2: ?????

Brother In-Law: HA HA HA HA

 

[DonJuanit0]

I can't understand, why it's up to her?!? You are not confident enough or what? Did she make the first move to kiss you or something?

Correct me if I have understand something wrong here!

 

[pdx1138]

If you read the threads here about it, the consensus is, that its best to let the girl do it. Many a guy lost the girl shortly after declaring what they were. Seems to happen a lot less when the girl does it.

men: go for the sex

women: go for the relationship

 

[DonJuanit0]

actually

real men: go for what they want

real women: accept only what they want

 

[Iceberg]

actually

real men: go for what they want

real women: accept only what they want

Yeah. I think we'll just ignore you for a while....

Pdx, your conversation with your sisters sounds like any time I've discussed dating issues with women. They just don't get it.

 

[Crissco]

If you read the threads here about it, the consensus is, that its best to let the girl do it. Many a guy lost the girl shortly after declaring what they were. Seems to happen a lot less when the girl does it.

men: go for the sex

women: go for the relationship

I Second this. I actually did loose a girl because i went for it. Lesson learned the hard way

 

[DonJuanit0]

wtf? seriously?

Women also want marriage! You should w8 from her to bring up the subject! Kids too! You can always be a guy she can tell her wants first cause you **** out because you think you lower your value as a man! I'll just laugh and leave for my work!

Have a nice day gentlemen! Peace!

 

[DonJuanit0]

I Second this. I actually did loose a girl because i went for it. Lesson learned the hard way

Yeah, if she wanted it and you said it first she lost her touch with her inner self! It's different when she doesn't really wants to and when she does! Since you want it you have to learn if she wants it too! Anyway, I'm out!

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Yeah, if she wanted it and you said it first she lost her touch with her inner self! It's different when she doesn't really wants to and when she does! Since you want it you have to learn if she wants it too! Anyway, I'm out!

Run along please. The grownups are talking.

 

[perseverance]

I think the man should decide whether or not he is or isn't exclusive.

 

[Masculinity]

I can't believe how some of you with decent rep say the man should ask for exclusivity. You don't deserve that rep. Let the woman come to you, period.

This court is adjourned.

 

[pdx1138]

I think the man should decide whether or not he is or isn't exclusive.

absolutely.

and she is a good catch that I've already decided to be exclusive with, but
she'll have to ask about it before I admit!

 

[perseverance]

I can't believe how some of you with decent rep say the man should ask for exclusivity. You don't deserve that rep. Let the woman come to you, period.

This court is adjourned.

You don't ask for permission, you state things how you see them, if she is interested in you enough and wants a relationship with you she'll agree.

 

[floydb25]

That made me crack up... Especially the last part.

 

[Crissco]

You don't ask for permission, you state things how you see them, if she is interested in you enough and wants a relationship with you she'll agree.

Exactly

 

[escaleraroyal]

sorry, but your sistas hot?

 

[pdx1138]

sorry, but your sistas hot?

ha ha yeah actually.

one could lose a few lbs but looks great for 30

the other looks great for 40 and is happily married to a millionaire.

 

[Strelok]

I'm usually on the "a man goes for what he wants" boat but not in any case related to women, the same moment she has balance and power over a man is the same moment where she lose part of her interest.

It's not a conscious thing, it seems they are just made like that.
When she sees she own you emotionally she lose interest as much as a man stop pedalising a woman he just possesed physically.

Real men go for what they want when there's a conflict with potential risks and something to be taken, when something has to be "given" you cannot go for it as if it had to be "taken".

 

[Slickster]

Avoid discussions with women about these topics. Even your sisters.

Nothing good ever comes from it.

 

[Packers2010]

from what i have read. it's best just to " let it happen"