"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Giovanni Casanova
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ok here goes the convo
i go and i sit next to her and i said
me: hey that was a sexy outfit
her: which one? oh the cat thankyou
me: yeah my mom used for holloween too
she looked at me serious and she started to laugh
me: i'm Dayron and you are? thats right the cat chick, sorry i got no fish right now.
she is kind of in shock dosent know what to say
her:so what do you want
me: i wanna have a wild time with a kitty like you.
her: not thank you
me: well your lost i was gonna do you a favor. *( i stand up)
her : hey wait up a favor what are you talking about
me: forget it i need a crazy kitty u seem to be more like a home kitty.
her: listen i'm goin to have lunch u wanna come
me: mmm are you traying to buy me food and then rape me or something i'm not that easy, besides i'm expensive.
ok we went to have something to eat she had to go to work after lunch i got her # we made out while lunch.
I told her that i have a dog outfit and that we should have a cat and dog type of fight in bed she said yeah we are gonna meet on thursday.
Maverick001
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Excellent use of C&F.
Keep rolling on.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mr. Delicious
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Giovanni Casanova
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What the hell was that, dude? "I got no fish right now"? What the f*ck does that mean?
No, she was deep in thought. She was thinking, "F*ck... is my TASER in my purse or is it in my jacket pocket?"
*sigh*
What the f*ck?
Not to be a d*ck (any more than I usually am), but you guys sound like a match made in heaven because there has got to be something wrong with the both of you. I give you a lot of credit for approaching this girl, and I'm glad you got good results, but your conversation was very... I think the word I'm looking for is "whatthef*ck". More power to you though.
penkitten
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Kaine
Senior Don Juan
You made the approach
You made your intent clear
You displayed challenge by showing williness to walk away
Your choice of words may been a bit "unusual", but you made up and amped up the attraction through actions and I suspect your bodylanguage too. I liked the playfulness there.
Cool
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Soma
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MAYBE, MAYBE, and I do say MAYBE, you approached but that's as far as it went.
There's nothing wrong with crashing and burning so if that's what really happened, just say it. It's a always a good story in and of itself. If you didn't even approach, well, suck it up and resolve to do differently next time. Next time just ACT. Don't think. Once you even get the slightest urge to think just start walking over there. Your mind will be blank and that's ok. Just say "hi".
Giovanni Casanova
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My bullsh*t meter kinda went apesh*t too, but I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt and just say... If a girl makes out with you after you use a pickup line like, "I don't have any fish", then you're either irresistable no matter what you do, or she is f*cked in the head.
Desdinova
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Who cares? If he made a comment that didn't make any sense, he recovered from it well.
Giovanni Casanova
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Like I said, if he made out with the girl, more power to him. But I do question any girl who would go out with a guy who threw them a line like that.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
FreeStyleZ
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If everything is true, then congratulations man, awesome job.
Maverick001
Senior Don Juan
You got the response you wanted from this chick so don't sweat over the technicalities of it.
It doesn't need to be perfect - the execution, the "time on station", and the exit.
If you feel that you need to polish your game then by all means do so. There's always room for further improvement.
Keep us posted on how it goes.
Cheers,
Mav
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