suavedave
Senior Don Juan
Here it is, a solution that will solve most of your problems. I posted a lot of field reports and, at least on the other forum the guys kept asking, "Well, what the hell are you actually DOING?" ie: I had yet to figure out what it was that was getting me laid, but I had come to a tentative conclusion: FIND.
FIND is the most important element. You can look high and low, but until you actually FIND a chick that is willing to do you, you're screwed. You can follow all the advice you want, improve yourself all you want, but until you actually FIND THE CHICK you're screwed. This is the reason that practice and a lot of approaches are necessary.
But here is another important point, and I will summarize it as follows:
Location > Girl
and this is read as
Location IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE Girl
Let me explain:
If you are a relatively shy person, like myself, then you will probably have a hard to doing PU (pick up) in many places. So the trick is to actually find places where you are both comfortable and attracted to the chicks.
What used to happen to me is that I would find a chick that I wanted to approach but, because I was too scared to approach her, I simply wouldn't do it. Then I wised up.
I started to get more comfortable in certain places, e.g. buses. So I could actually approach chicks there. Then I expanded my comfort zone a bit. You have a comfort zone already, and if you don't have one, find at least one place where you are able to go up to chicks.
So anyway, there I would be, and there the chick would be. I would want to go up to her but wouldn't and so I wasted so much energy listening to my incessant internal dialogue and totally blocking my impulses. My impulses said "Go for it!" But I couldn't I was simply too shy. This impacted my life a great deal because there was a major energy block that didn't seem to want to go away.
So listen to this advice: MAKE THE LOCATION MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE GIRL. Tell yourself, in other words, that there are simply places where you will not do PU and places you will. That way your mind is WAY MORE FREE and you are not thinking/regretting that you are not approaching a certain chick that you see. You KNOW that there are places/times where you WILL approach chicks, and those are the places where you will feel more comfortable. Let me know how this works for you !!
FIND is the most important element. You can look high and low, but until you actually FIND a chick that is willing to do you, you're screwed. You can follow all the advice you want, improve yourself all you want, but until you actually FIND THE CHICK you're screwed. This is the reason that practice and a lot of approaches are necessary.
But here is another important point, and I will summarize it as follows:
Location > Girl
and this is read as
Location IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE Girl
Let me explain:
If you are a relatively shy person, like myself, then you will probably have a hard to doing PU (pick up) in many places. So the trick is to actually find places where you are both comfortable and attracted to the chicks.
What used to happen to me is that I would find a chick that I wanted to approach but, because I was too scared to approach her, I simply wouldn't do it. Then I wised up.
I started to get more comfortable in certain places, e.g. buses. So I could actually approach chicks there. Then I expanded my comfort zone a bit. You have a comfort zone already, and if you don't have one, find at least one place where you are able to go up to chicks.
So anyway, there I would be, and there the chick would be. I would want to go up to her but wouldn't and so I wasted so much energy listening to my incessant internal dialogue and totally blocking my impulses. My impulses said "Go for it!" But I couldn't I was simply too shy. This impacted my life a great deal because there was a major energy block that didn't seem to want to go away.
So listen to this advice: MAKE THE LOCATION MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE GIRL. Tell yourself, in other words, that there are simply places where you will not do PU and places you will. That way your mind is WAY MORE FREE and you are not thinking/regretting that you are not approaching a certain chick that you see. You KNOW that there are places/times where you WILL approach chicks, and those are the places where you will feel more comfortable. Let me know how this works for you !!