Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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scarface316

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I got the LJBF speech when I made the move last week on HB8..

Then she texts me this morning in class saying how she thought it was weird how she didn't see "you guys" (my friends and I) this weekend. I didn't reply, and then after that class in school, I bumped into her. Blah blah blah, I basically ignored her but we had a quick hug walking by.. After school, she texts me again asking what I'm doing and so far I've ignored it..

To be honest with you guys, I'm already over this girl but I want to know what you would do so I can learn from this situation.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sounds like your handling it well. move on. be civil and nice in person but give your time and attenion to new girls.
 

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What Warrior said.

As long as she isn't saying what you want to hear you're not interested.
 

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I'm a fan of keeping girls as friends because they can be used as pivots and for social proof. Also having friends is good.
 
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You're doing well. A LJBF speech shouldn't change your behavior whatsoever. Remember, her loss not yours.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thanks for the support guys.. I've learned from this site and slowly, I am understanding how to keep my "cool".

Right now, I'm looking and talking to different girls.. If I choose to game her, how should I go about doing it? Cuz she shot me down and I crashed and burned last time I went in for the kill.
 

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oldschooler said:
You don't choose to game her, rather you open your self up and allow her to game you.
Alright, I can see where you're going with this... Could you elaborate on this? How open should I let myself be? And I'm not familiar with letting a girl game me.. Examples?
 
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You do the initial attraction process, than lay back a bit and let her come onto you. You're evening the scales a bit.
 

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I'm really liking the advice guys...

How do you play hard to get to a girl?

I'm new to the game because I was a fat dude before.. Dropped 115 pounds and now I'm 200.

I'm going to keep myself cool and not make moves on her.. I'm also still not going to think about her cuz doing that will put the nice-guy back out. (Which is the reason why I am in the LJBF zone so far..)
 
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You play hard to get by BEING hard to get.

Seriously, accuse her of hitting on you all the time. But do it in a jokingly (is that a word?) way. If she laughs when you tell a joke or something say, "Look at you, you SOOOOO like me, you're so bad at hiding that!" or something like that.

I don't even know, dude once you get this thing going for yourself it's pretty much autopilot. You just have to DO IT, and it all starts to flow naturally.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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