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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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scarface316

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I got the LJBF speech when I made the move last week on HB8..

Then she texts me this morning in class saying how she thought it was weird how she didn't see "you guys" (my friends and I) this weekend. I didn't reply, and then after that class in school, I bumped into her. Blah blah blah, I basically ignored her but we had a quick hug walking by.. After school, she texts me again asking what I'm doing and so far I've ignored it..

To be honest with you guys, I'm already over this girl but I want to know what you would do so I can learn from this situation.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sounds like your handling it well. move on. be civil and nice in person but give your time and attenion to new girls.
 

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What Warrior said.

As long as she isn't saying what you want to hear you're not interested.
 

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I'm a fan of keeping girls as friends because they can be used as pivots and for social proof. Also having friends is good.
 
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You're doing well. A LJBF speech shouldn't change your behavior whatsoever. Remember, her loss not yours.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks for the support guys.. I've learned from this site and slowly, I am understanding how to keep my "cool".

Right now, I'm looking and talking to different girls.. If I choose to game her, how should I go about doing it? Cuz she shot me down and I crashed and burned last time I went in for the kill.
 

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oldschooler said:
You don't choose to game her, rather you open your self up and allow her to game you.
Alright, I can see where you're going with this... Could you elaborate on this? How open should I let myself be? And I'm not familiar with letting a girl game me.. Examples?
 
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You do the initial attraction process, than lay back a bit and let her come onto you. You're evening the scales a bit.
 

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I'm really liking the advice guys...

How do you play hard to get to a girl?

I'm new to the game because I was a fat dude before.. Dropped 115 pounds and now I'm 200.

I'm going to keep myself cool and not make moves on her.. I'm also still not going to think about her cuz doing that will put the nice-guy back out. (Which is the reason why I am in the LJBF zone so far..)
 
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You play hard to get by BEING hard to get.

Seriously, accuse her of hitting on you all the time. But do it in a jokingly (is that a word?) way. If she laughs when you tell a joke or something say, "Look at you, you SOOOOO like me, you're so bad at hiding that!" or something like that.

I don't even know, dude once you get this thing going for yourself it's pretty much autopilot. You just have to DO IT, and it all starts to flow naturally.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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