Need LJBF Help
Background: I met this girl at homecoming and found out she is an exchange student from Norway(Hottie) I knew the moment that I initially talked to her I wanted to get to know her more, and possibly form a relationship with her. I slowly eased my way into her vision and started to talk to her/txt her/ and walk with her in the hallway at school. I really felt something there, but did not know what she felt at all. One time when we hung out, I made the move of cuddling with her and going for a kiss, i got a positive return of her kissing back but it followed with a " Oh god i can't believe i am doing this". What she said stuck with me for awhile, as our relationship progressed and as we got to know each other and get closer I asked her out. This is the area where the road got rough and now that I look back i know my mistakes. We were in the phase of dating/getting to know each other more intimately, I made the mistake of saying I liked her, and I made the mistake of taking about how she feels about other guys and how she feels about me. I brought the conversation to her, not her to me. Fortunately our relationship and bond ship stuck together, but with a twist, she began to open up to me and told me that before she came to the United States(for only a year) she had a boyfriend that she broke up with because she left, this obviously was frustrating for me and I felt bad because she still had some feelings for him. I told her that she should give me a shot in a relationship and see how we would work out, she kind of agreed with what I said with the fact of me talking to her a lot and telling her that I was there for her. Our relationship got some what closer intimately and we could easily laugh together, her host parents really like me, and she said that she had some feelings for me. We hung out and I became closer to her. She began to tell me how she felt like she was living two different lives, she had her life back home in Norway, and a completely different culture, social life, family and set of friends here in the USA. I kept telling her that I was here for her and that I will talk to her any time(EMOTIONAL TAMPON MOMENT
) We hung out three days ago during the weekend and watched a scary movie together, she was clinging to me during the scary moments and I felt that I was the one protecting her. Before I left to go home randomly out of no where she told me that she needed to talk, she continued with telling me for the past week that she wanted to LJBF, i was completely bummed and hated myself thinking I had done something wrong. She told me that it was not my fault, and that several things were going on in her life with, living two lives, having some feelings for her ex, and being caught up in many things. The next day I was alright, I usually do not have trouble getting over girls, but I felt this girl was special and very attractive. I talked to her on the phone about the situation and told her I really disliked the situation, and she told me that we just need to see how we are as friends, I told her that I will all ways be her friend, even though I want to be more. I asked her if there is a possibility of being more then friends ever again and we both agreed that time could only tell right now, but not to get my hopes up(Basically saying NO!! in a nice way). Recently she told me her ex is going to move to another city in Norway and he told her that if she has any other guys or wants to move on she should, she said that she feels he is still kind of her guy, and that she still has feelings for him. I am not in a F****d situation, i want to be more then friends with this girl, and want to know what i need to do to make that possible, right now I am trying to ignore her slightly, it is very hard to accomplish that when i share a class with her, and see her in the halls. For example, i was walking with her in the hallway, but i wasn't acting my I like you self to her, and she kept asking are you okay?, Is something wrong? I know this may be a good sign, but I am not going to rush back to her, I want her crawling to me. I hope i can take this LJBF situation and turn it completely around to be better then what we used to have as a relationship.
Main Questions:
2)What do I do about this girl, do i continue my plan, add something to the plan, or do i just forget about her?
3)How can I change myself, to begin my path towards PUA or DJ.
Update: what should i say when she asks me "what is wrong?" or something of that sort, do I leave her in the dark completely by avoiding all the time or do I talk to her sometimes, if so what do I talk to her about. Also when is the right time to reconvey my feelings to her or take a sexual approach.
Background: I met this girl at homecoming and found out she is an exchange student from Norway(Hottie) I knew the moment that I initially talked to her I wanted to get to know her more, and possibly form a relationship with her. I slowly eased my way into her vision and started to talk to her/txt her/ and walk with her in the hallway at school. I really felt something there, but did not know what she felt at all. One time when we hung out, I made the move of cuddling with her and going for a kiss, i got a positive return of her kissing back but it followed with a " Oh god i can't believe i am doing this". What she said stuck with me for awhile, as our relationship progressed and as we got to know each other and get closer I asked her out. This is the area where the road got rough and now that I look back i know my mistakes. We were in the phase of dating/getting to know each other more intimately, I made the mistake of saying I liked her, and I made the mistake of taking about how she feels about other guys and how she feels about me. I brought the conversation to her, not her to me. Fortunately our relationship and bond ship stuck together, but with a twist, she began to open up to me and told me that before she came to the United States(for only a year) she had a boyfriend that she broke up with because she left, this obviously was frustrating for me and I felt bad because she still had some feelings for him. I told her that she should give me a shot in a relationship and see how we would work out, she kind of agreed with what I said with the fact of me talking to her a lot and telling her that I was there for her. Our relationship got some what closer intimately and we could easily laugh together, her host parents really like me, and she said that she had some feelings for me. We hung out and I became closer to her. She began to tell me how she felt like she was living two different lives, she had her life back home in Norway, and a completely different culture, social life, family and set of friends here in the USA. I kept telling her that I was here for her and that I will talk to her any time(EMOTIONAL TAMPON MOMENT
) We hung out three days ago during the weekend and watched a scary movie together, she was clinging to me during the scary moments and I felt that I was the one protecting her. Before I left to go home randomly out of no where she told me that she needed to talk, she continued with telling me for the past week that she wanted to LJBF, i was completely bummed and hated myself thinking I had done something wrong. She told me that it was not my fault, and that several things were going on in her life with, living two lives, having some feelings for her ex, and being caught up in many things. The next day I was alright, I usually do not have trouble getting over girls, but I felt this girl was special and very attractive. I talked to her on the phone about the situation and told her I really disliked the situation, and she told me that we just need to see how we are as friends, I told her that I will all ways be her friend, even though I want to be more. I asked her if there is a possibility of being more then friends ever again and we both agreed that time could only tell right now, but not to get my hopes up(Basically saying NO!! in a nice way). Recently she told me her ex is going to move to another city in Norway and he told her that if she has any other guys or wants to move on she should, she said that she feels he is still kind of her guy, and that she still has feelings for him. I am not in a F****d situation, i want to be more then friends with this girl, and want to know what i need to do to make that possible, right now I am trying to ignore her slightly, it is very hard to accomplish that when i share a class with her, and see her in the halls. For example, i was walking with her in the hallway, but i wasn't acting my I like you self to her, and she kept asking are you okay?, Is something wrong? I know this may be a good sign, but I am not going to rush back to her, I want her crawling to me. I hope i can take this LJBF situation and turn it completely around to be better then what we used to have as a relationship.Main Questions:
2)What do I do about this girl, do i continue my plan, add something to the plan, or do i just forget about her?
3)How can I change myself, to begin my path towards PUA or DJ.
Update: what should i say when she asks me "what is wrong?" or something of that sort, do I leave her in the dark completely by avoiding all the time or do I talk to her sometimes, if so what do I talk to her about. Also when is the right time to reconvey my feelings to her or take a sexual approach.
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