LJBF ed at the first date?!?!

[matt86]

Hi guys this is my story!
I met this girl on facebook 3 weeks ago. She is from my city but she was on erasmus so we couldn met.
She gave me her number so we were texting each other every day. She was always the one to start conversation ecc...
Last thursday she came back from erasmus. On saturday she texted me she was goingo to pass saturday night home so i told her to come out with me.
She accepted but she stated that she was going to go out with me as friend...O_O. I told her that i ave already too many friends and to little time while smiling!
The dinner went very well! We had a lot of fun altough it was the first time seeing each other. I tried to do some light kino and she never rejected...But i couldnt find an opening to kiss her.
Next day, while we were texting each other, she told me she found a work in a city 8 hours distant from my home. Hearing that i told her “so i have to tell you goodbye coz i dont wanna speak to a girl that i cannot see” she answered “hey i was just jocking, i’ve just returned home, now i wanto to spend some time here”. (I think she did all this joke just to test me)
Yesterday she told me she didnt know where to go to lunch, i told her to come with me and she accepted...but than again she said...i just wanto to be friend, i told her i would never be his friend and we went to eat...We had a great time altough we had only one hour...
That’s it for now. I really like this girl but i assure you i’m not being needy ecc but i would like some advice to overcome this friend thing she has!!
If you want some clarification just ask it J!!
Every advice is accepted!!

 

[Dan08]

I'm far from an expert but by this point I think a lot of guys would advocate NC and possibly nexting this chick? Correct me if I'm wrong fellas
If you still want this chick then probably just go NC, you've made it clear you want more than a friendship but right now it seems she's just using you for dinners and the like.

Seems like you've played it well though mate considering, so kudos to you for that

 

[ScottMustaine]

You got lucky. Imagine if she stringed you for years just to get ljbf'd.

NEEEEEXT.

 

[matt86]

What is the meaning of NC?
Btw this girl is really hot! I'm sure she is not using me for dinner and she want to hear from me really often...i dont get how she could put me in friend zone in this small time and with me telling her i dont want her as a friend

p.s. she know i have a Best friend and the day after our first date she texted me “did you spoke about me with Sarah (my friend)?? Have u told her i tolerate you for three hours last night ?”

 

[Cremasta]

I'm sure she is not using me for dinner and she want to hear from me really often...

So you've put in the friend zone from the start, that's great, because you now you can approach everything from the point of not caring, which is good for your game. My only question is... if you've been put in the friend zone, why are you paying for dinner, or anything else for that matter?

 

[matt86]

I paid dinner at the first date only

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Ugh, so many mistakes... but the major one was, of course, texting her. And here's why!

Hope this helps!

 

[j0504s]

What is the meaning of NC?
Btw this girl is really hot! I'm sure she is not using me for dinner and she want to hear from me really often...i dont get how she could put me in friend zone in this small time and with me telling her i dont want her as a friend

p.s. she know i have a Best friend and the day after our first date she texted me “did you spoke about me with Sarah (my friend)?? Have u told her i tolerate you for three hours last night ?”

Ok listen buddy...First thing N/C means No contact....which isnt 100% what needs to be done in this case...read this thread by Uncharted...http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=205329 this is gold and brilliantly put....Second is I would not discuss with any of your friends or your mutual friend you have any interest in her....keep it to your self...it will mess it up...second if you dont want LJBF...dont treat her like a friend(it can possibly be a **** test but dont think into it to much)...You need to CREATE FUN which will lead to arrousal...You dont know this chick that well so thats good...Remmber you are a Don Juan, you have options and you are not afraid to leave...no women makes your happiness...Take her on a fun a thrilling ACTIVITY...Never first date at dinner...this is my rule of thumb...Go ice skating, driving range, Rock Climbing, Go karting....w/e just do something that get some adreneline going, which will lead to you escalting and passionate sex!!!!

If this doesnt work...then scottmustaine advice is best....NEXT...Ido belive that post uncharted made is gold so read it if you didnt...

P.s.: sry for typos at work will fix later

 

[Neon Owl]

If it were me I'd just ignore her ljbf comments and go for it. You haven't even tried to kiss her yet ffs.

Take her out somewhere then go back to your or her place for 'drinks' then escalate and see what happens. If she refuses to even kiss you after a couple attempts and rejects all your advances then go NC and forget about her.

 

[frisco]

Lets just be friends is usually a sign of to much comfort and not enough attraction, By texting every day before the meet up you built alot of comfort lost alot of your mystery, You can salvage but it usually takes time you need to slowly tease her and get compliance and qualify her, while at the same time you still want her to feel comfortable around you and like nothing has change. so you basically rotate in and out slowly teasing more and more and getting compliance tests. could take one week could take a month, and dont initiate txt messages. You will notice a change or click were her body language and actions actually shifts, she may even verbally say something that lets you know that you have now been put into a list of possible sexual partners. This is where most guys **** up and blow there cover and the girl then regains all the power and you again begin chasing them. What she is doing is testing you to make sure you are congruent, and giving you an invitation to escalate sexually. Strike while the iron is hot be a man and continue to tease and qualify her and escalate into seduction phase.

 

[Zarky]

Um, why would you go out with a girl at all if she said she just wanted to be friends? If a girl says she just wants to be friends, you say no thanks and then delete her number and find another girl.

 

[matt86]

I told her i'm interesred in her but i would never want her as a frind so i told her i was leaving her
Now i go on !! She sure took that worse than me...women are really strange, we went out 2 times and she was already this attached

 

[nismo-4]

Um, why would you go out with a girl at all if she said she just wanted to be friends? If a girl says she just wants to be friends, you say no thanks and then delete her number and find another girl.

Read this again!!!

It's bad enough you have this girl on a pedestal. Even worse you still took her out after she just friendzoned you. She sees the "Undesirable male" label all over your face. More so you texted so damn much and didn't even attempt to kiss her. Gee, is it any wonder you're in the friendzone?

The best thing for you now is to just go ghost (No contact) and spin more plates. Believe me, your princess is in another castle. Being in the friendzone is never good for men. Judge's ruling.

Case closed.

 

[matt86]

Maybe i wasn't clear!! She is no way on a pedestal! I asked her out telling her we would never be friend! She still want me as friend so i will just nc her!

 

[Zarky]

I asked her out telling her we would never be friend!

I like that. Never heard of a guy "un-LJBFing" himself by adamantly refuting the LJBF. Gonna have to try that:

Her: I see you as just a friend.
Me: No you don't.
Her: What? Um, yes I do.
Me: Nope
Her: Yes
Me: Yes
Her: What?
Me: Yes, you don't not see me as nothing other than more than not just a friend.
Her: Um, yes?
Me: Yes
Her: I'm so confused.
Me: Take off your panties.

 

[matt86]

Today she tried to contact me again...i told her to delete my number...she said "i tough u were jocking" i told her no and bye bye and now is over after just 5 days!! At least it was fast!!!
NEXTTTT!!!

 

[Dan08]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FONN-0uoTHI

 

[matt86]

this morning texted me again..."I hope you are not angry with me"
....girs are really strange...but we all know that

 

[matt86]

Another thing i would like to ask...
In the next she will be probably try to contact me, what should i do now that i decided to NC:
-dont answer
-answer cold

Dunno which chose coz sometimes i read to not answer and sometimes to be cold

 

[Sneevox]

I paid dinner at the first date only

That's a problem. Why is this chick worth your money?
How much was the dinner? 30 bucks?
If you make 10 bucks an hour, you just spent 3 hours of your life working to spend an hour with a pretty chick that friendzoned you while eating food.

Good job.
Don't waste money on people you don't know are worth it, because they can always friendzone you.

IT also shows that you're a bit of a pushover OR that you put the pvssy on a pedestal, which is not the Don Juan-ish thing to do.