Okay, say you screwed up and some chick LJBF'd you, but still you think to yourself "if I don't find someone I like better, I'd like to give it another go with this one." It's a common strategy to cut off contact with her for a while so those friend-feelings she has for you die off. How long should you wait? Is 4 months good? How likely is this strategy to get you a clean start when you try her again? I'm not asking how likely it will be that you'll bag her next time, but how likely it will be that the friends issue won't be in your way.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LJBF and cooling off period
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, the old advice is to "Go Find/**** Ten Other Women". If you start pursuing other women and have other women in your life, she may come to rethink her original opinion of you.
Realistically, though, if she LJBF'd you directly, the cooling off period is probably going to be more like 6 month to a year. That's enough time for you to grow enough so that she might see you in a new light. That's been my experience anyway.
Realistically, though, if she LJBF'd you directly, the cooling off period is probably going to be more like 6 month to a year. That's enough time for you to grow enough so that she might see you in a new light. That's been my experience anyway.
Yeah, right, I definitely will be pursuing other women. I'm just contemplating how long I should wait before giving her another shot. It would be immensely satisfying to me to turn things around with her, even if it didn't work out, since she made it seem like there's no hope. Just the knowledge that I pulled it off would be SWEET and fulfilling. I'm into the challenge aspect, but I don't wanna go back too soon and blow it permanently.Telos said:
By the way, she didn't always think of me as a cuddly plush-toy. I'm pretty sure she didn't when I was coming in her ass using only a little saliva as lube.
Sounds painful man. She must have a pretty big, gaping ass.
Waiting around for a woman is not something DJ's do. Don't wait. But I will say that since you have had sexual contact with her in the past, she may not view you as innocuously as a plush toy, it's more likely that she is just quite simply no longer attracted to you. Give it a few months and try again, I guess.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LMAO, but nah, it took me about 6 tries to get it in and she complained that it hurt for days after. Oh well...Telos said:
I certainly don't disagree, but the girl lives in another city and I might be going there for another reason sometime in the not too distant future. It's not urgent though and I wanna time my trip with when I'll be able to try getting with this girl again.
Yeah, I think that's it. You see, I wound up taking her for granted and I didn't do any of the stuff I would normally do to keep someone interested. I believe she found her general experience with me to be pretty "blah." Being a typical woman, she thinks there's something unalterable about how she feels about me, not realizing that the reason she views me as she does is just because of how I acted and if I wait long enough for her to loosen up just a little, I can change her mind. She seems to think of "clicking" with a person as something magical and mysterious or some BS, as opposed to the reality of the situation which is that it has everything to do with how I behave. I just want there to be a day when I'm telling her about how it was destiny that we'd cross paths again or some nonsense and watching her eat it up.
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I've tried this before and all I got for my trouble was a kiss and one make out session.