"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Living in the Past...

Jon55

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I came across some pictures of about 3 years ago and I realized how much fun I was having then. Life could not of been better.

Looking into now, I also realize how much I'm living in the past sometimes. I really wish I could have a lot of those memories reoccur. I know this is not healthy, I know it's bad, but I feel so empty now compared to then.

I need help. It's not as though I don't get out and make new, awesome memories with new friends and have fun, but I still can't help but look back (mostly on past relationships, both serious and just friendships, with girls).

All my friends and I were part of a church. Sure, it's church, and I know that kinda goes against certain things that are taught on the DJ Forum, but I had so much more fun with them than I do going to parties/bars.

I don't expect replies from this, I just wanted to collect my thoughts and maybe someone else might understand them better than me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I've realized that those times are part of what made you to who you are today. For myself at least, those good times, bad memories and the different people, experiences and whatsuch have created a confident male.

Meh
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Instead of living in the past, consider learning from it.
 

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The past often seems more idyllic than it really was.

"Do not say, 'Why were the old days better than these?'
For it is not wise to ask such questions" (Ecclesiastes 7:10).

On the other hand, the girls you find at church are usually a lot less wh0rish than the girls you find at parties and bars. Altho if they are prudes, that isn't much better. (Prudes and hors have a lot in common.)

If you were doing something fun in the past that you miss doing, maybe you should start doing it again -- or do something similar.
 
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