"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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live with GF and got in a big fight what do you do to fix it?

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I am living with my GF yea I know that can lead to some problems but anyways we got in a big fight cause of some stupid sh*t. Im kind of mad ive been with her over a year roughly and things are usually ok but she just fvcks up sometimes like doing really idiotic things like being real flirty. Thats just the way she is though. It just got to me this time though. She wasnt kissing or anything but she and this guy she messed around with before like a while ago had their around each other (standing side by side) she saw me walk up and she all of the sudden got away from him then I walked away again and she did the same thing. So I let her know what was up and got pissed. Maybe it was innocent considering they were wasted and I was pretty buzzed. Im still kind of mad right now. she said she was sorry but still. I almost want to end everything with her. But then I want to stay with her. How do you fix problems like this when you live with a GF?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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when i was living with my g/f whenever we got in a fight, it was her fault... not mine. she always gave in first and to this day she still loves me even though we no longer live together.

its her problem to deal with if you got in a fight. not yours
 

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Jealousy is the kiss of death!

Women are attracted to power. Powerful people are not jealous, because they have everything they want. Never display jealosy to a woman - they are the catty jealous ones, not us.

The next time it happens, tell them they make a cute couple. Make it no big deal (you have to believe it first).
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Originally posted by MKS82
I am living with my GF yea I know that can lead to some problems like doing really idiotic things like being real flirty. Thats just the way she is though. It just got to me this time though. She wasnt kissing or anything but she and this guy she messed around with before like a while ago had their around each other (standing side by side) she saw me walk up and she all of the sudden got away from him then I walked away again and she did the same thing.
If you were smart you'd dump her and not look back. This girl has zero integrity. If a girl pulled this sh1t on me her azz would be out the door. Do not tolerate any disrespect from any woman.
 

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Just make it clear to her that it is disrespectful for her to be hanging on any other guy if she is in a relationship with you and that if she behaves like that again you're not going to stay in a relationship with her. Then if she does it again, dump her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MKS,

Let me ask you this. Say you had a fantastic day, that all of a sudden your career took a turn for the better, you had spent a lot of time with friends, and you were regularly having phenomenal sex with this GF of yours, as well as regularly feeling a spiritual connection to this girl. Would this GF of yours standing next to some ex bother you at all?

I sincerely hope not! You have the right to be angry, even if it's really not a big deal - it feels like it's a big deal, I'm sure! All I'm saying is, if things were going different in your life, you wouldn't care. If she apologized, as long as she isn't cheating that is the end of her responsibility. That you're still angry about it is your responsibility. Go out with friends, have a good time, you'll feel better and have more perspective.

David
 

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if things were going different in your life, you wouldn't care
He would and SHOULD care.


There are several ways these kinds of situations can go:

Either you act like a pvssy and she begins to lose all respect for you, and this behaviour continues (for if this is how she acts when you are around, how do you think she acts when your not around?). If she see's that you think this is no big deal, she will continue to fratanize with the enemy.

You act like a crazy mother fvcker - get insecure and jealous - which will also deem the end fo your relationship

You can step up to the plate and lay down the law. You tell her what you expect from her - reiterate it, then ask her "Do you UNDERSTAND?" . If she does not understand or agree you leave.


Of course, you could also go find a chick that isn't a Attention Ho.

Why would you tolerate her hanging off of a guy who C#ck she's sucked?
 

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Originally posted by NewMan
He would and SHOULD care.


There are several ways these kinds of situations can go:

Either you act like a pvssy and she begins to lose all respect for you, and this behaviour continues (for if this is how she acts when you are around, how do you think she acts when your not around?). If she see's that you think this is no big deal, she will continue to fratanize with the enemy.

You act like a crazy mother fvcker - get insecure and jealous - which will also deem the end fo your relationship

You can step up to the plate and lay down the law. You tell her what you expect from her - reiterate it, then ask her "Do you UNDERSTAND?" . If she does not understand or agree you leave.


Of course, you could also go find a chick that isn't a Attention Ho.

Why would you tolerate her hanging off of a guy who C#ck she's sucked?
I second that!:up:
 
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