"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Slippery Sam

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i believe i have the right idea towards girls, and i know that i have to work on my conversation. ive been trying to use questions that make the girl think and feel valued like, what do u think about tattoos, ok how about tattoos on girls? and also if you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why? now to keep up the topic i would ask more questions and usually i get iois but im not sure if thats how conversation works. btw i also add in jokes, and stories of my own when i can and they fit well, i dont just ask questions. the reason i bring this up is because i was talking to one of my friends (7.5) and everythings going well, shes giving me iois, we're gettin close, i have my hand around her, and she blurts out, "are you going to keep asking me questions? theres no possible way it can get awkward." now this through me for a loop, i paused, looked at her and said, "what?" and she just looked away for a sec and said nevermind. i didnt want to keep asking so that i wouldnt come off as needy, so i kept up my game with a little less questions and all went well, but im still curious, did i do something wrong?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lalahaha

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It seems like you're trying a little too hard to get her imagination or the conversation going. When you keep asking questions then what happens is that she eventually feels like she's being interrogated, when she's giving you iois the only question you should have left for her is either for her phone number or a date
 

joedmango

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asking too many questions is a little bit annoying, is it something that you are scared of screwing up? as you said you kept your game less questions and went pretty well, it's because she's thinking that your trusting her because you didn't ask too much questions.
 

jeffthechef

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i would recommend you start with a couple questions..not too many...
but start giving your opinion/comment....then she'll usually build on that and then conversation can flow...if you stay with asking questions, it won't get anywhere

For example...one time i was talking with this girl in class...a class called band, where eveyrone is screwing around...i asked her how her weekend was...she said good...theni asked what she did...she said she was watching a lot of House..then we got into a debate over house...and then a show i was watching a lot of...and then almost set up a schedule to watch together...but then i stopped pursuing...oh well..that's not the point..

the point is to comment more...75/25 or 80/20 balance...i'm sure you're not asking as many questions as you have us believe...but just givin you some advice..oh yeah, girls can tell when you're trying hard to get the conversation going..so try less..and kino might help...it helps fill the conversation a lot more...maybe thumb war or something physically interactive while you talk if the situation permits (waiting for the bus, afterschool, etc.)
 

Slippery Sam

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yea i guess ill comment more. wat are some good physically interactive games jeffthechef?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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