"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Slippery Sam

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i believe i have the right idea towards girls, and i know that i have to work on my conversation. ive been trying to use questions that make the girl think and feel valued like, what do u think about tattoos, ok how about tattoos on girls? and also if you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why? now to keep up the topic i would ask more questions and usually i get iois but im not sure if thats how conversation works. btw i also add in jokes, and stories of my own when i can and they fit well, i dont just ask questions. the reason i bring this up is because i was talking to one of my friends (7.5) and everythings going well, shes giving me iois, we're gettin close, i have my hand around her, and she blurts out, "are you going to keep asking me questions? theres no possible way it can get awkward." now this through me for a loop, i paused, looked at her and said, "what?" and she just looked away for a sec and said nevermind. i didnt want to keep asking so that i wouldnt come off as needy, so i kept up my game with a little less questions and all went well, but im still curious, did i do something wrong?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lalahaha

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It seems like you're trying a little too hard to get her imagination or the conversation going. When you keep asking questions then what happens is that she eventually feels like she's being interrogated, when she's giving you iois the only question you should have left for her is either for her phone number or a date
 

joedmango

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asking too many questions is a little bit annoying, is it something that you are scared of screwing up? as you said you kept your game less questions and went pretty well, it's because she's thinking that your trusting her because you didn't ask too much questions.
 

jeffthechef

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i would recommend you start with a couple questions..not too many...
but start giving your opinion/comment....then she'll usually build on that and then conversation can flow...if you stay with asking questions, it won't get anywhere

For example...one time i was talking with this girl in class...a class called band, where eveyrone is screwing around...i asked her how her weekend was...she said good...theni asked what she did...she said she was watching a lot of House..then we got into a debate over house...and then a show i was watching a lot of...and then almost set up a schedule to watch together...but then i stopped pursuing...oh well..that's not the point..

the point is to comment more...75/25 or 80/20 balance...i'm sure you're not asking as many questions as you have us believe...but just givin you some advice..oh yeah, girls can tell when you're trying hard to get the conversation going..so try less..and kino might help...it helps fill the conversation a lot more...maybe thumb war or something physically interactive while you talk if the situation permits (waiting for the bus, afterschool, etc.)
 

Slippery Sam

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yea i guess ill comment more. wat are some good physically interactive games jeffthechef?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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