Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hi all, I am new to this forum, it seems really interesting. I just needed a little insight on a girl I wanted to ask out. I was at the mall a few days ago and I walked into Lucky Brand Jeans with my best friend and the girl who helped us out was very attractive. She seemed shy and hesitant about everything (maybe her first day on the job?). Anyways, if I go in again in a few days she might recognize me and all, but I was just wondering, what is the best way to actually ask her out, because it's kinda weird doing it while she's working and the store is a bit small..

'Hey if you're not busy this week, could I treat you to some coffee or lunch?' Does that sound about right? Thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok.. Regardless if she helped you, just go up to her and be like Hey.. I was in here so and so long ago and you helped me out. I was wondering if you would like to get some (insert food place here) with me (insert time).
 

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Dude if you didnt make any valuable connections with her the first time,you basically messed up.Like if you werent a generic customer and you actually joked around with her,by all means,go back and just say like Hey I appreciate the help lets go get some coffee sometime when your not working,whats your number.Go on from there.
 

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619joe said:
Dude if you didnt make any valuable connections with her the first time,you basically messed up.Like if you werent a generic customer and you actually joked around with her,by all means,go back and just say like Hey I appreciate the help lets go get some coffee sometime when your not working,whats your number.Go on from there.
yeah I agree with joe. It could make you look really creepy if you just approach her out of the blue. I highly doubt she'll remember you. NOW, if you want to start over and go in like you never met her and play your game (i.e. don't act like an AFC) then that'll be much better. Just DON'T bring up that you were there before. If she remembers you that's a good thing. By the sounds of it you need to take my advice and start over with her. Don't just walk in there and say that she helped you a couple days ago and that over the last few days you realized that she was pretty and wanted to get to know her more. Man, that would be really lame.
 

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ahsandaredia said:
Hi all, I am new to this forum, it seems really interesting. I just needed a little insight on a girl I wanted to ask out. I was at the mall a few days ago and I walked into Lucky Brand Jeans with my best friend and the girl who helped us out was very attractive. She seemed shy and hesitant about everything (maybe her first day on the job?). Anyways, if I go in again in a few days she might recognize me and all, but I was just wondering, what is the best way to actually ask her out, because it's kinda weird doing it while she's working and the store is a bit small..

'Hey if you're not busy this week, could I treat you to some coffee or lunch?' Does that sound about right? Thanks!
If she is interested, you will have a cell number and a coffee date. If she isnt you will either get the truth "I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend" or a lame excuse.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It sounds like your begging to go get coffee. Invite her along for coffee and just pay for it since it's only like 5 bucks. That's not much of a treat.
 

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Well as with any other women in public she gets asked out very often so you will need to get in line and man up and hope she gives you a turn. get her number call and offer her something and hope she agrees to spend time with you.
 
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