"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Little Advice Needed

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Hi all, I am new to this forum, it seems really interesting. I just needed a little insight on a girl I wanted to ask out. I was at the mall a few days ago and I walked into Lucky Brand Jeans with my best friend and the girl who helped us out was very attractive. She seemed shy and hesitant about everything (maybe her first day on the job?). Anyways, if I go in again in a few days she might recognize me and all, but I was just wondering, what is the best way to actually ask her out, because it's kinda weird doing it while she's working and the store is a bit small..

'Hey if you're not busy this week, could I treat you to some coffee or lunch?' Does that sound about right? Thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok.. Regardless if she helped you, just go up to her and be like Hey.. I was in here so and so long ago and you helped me out. I was wondering if you would like to get some (insert food place here) with me (insert time).
 

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Dude if you didnt make any valuable connections with her the first time,you basically messed up.Like if you werent a generic customer and you actually joked around with her,by all means,go back and just say like Hey I appreciate the help lets go get some coffee sometime when your not working,whats your number.Go on from there.
 

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619joe said:
Dude if you didnt make any valuable connections with her the first time,you basically messed up.Like if you werent a generic customer and you actually joked around with her,by all means,go back and just say like Hey I appreciate the help lets go get some coffee sometime when your not working,whats your number.Go on from there.
yeah I agree with joe. It could make you look really creepy if you just approach her out of the blue. I highly doubt she'll remember you. NOW, if you want to start over and go in like you never met her and play your game (i.e. don't act like an AFC) then that'll be much better. Just DON'T bring up that you were there before. If she remembers you that's a good thing. By the sounds of it you need to take my advice and start over with her. Don't just walk in there and say that she helped you a couple days ago and that over the last few days you realized that she was pretty and wanted to get to know her more. Man, that would be really lame.
 

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ahsandaredia said:
Hi all, I am new to this forum, it seems really interesting. I just needed a little insight on a girl I wanted to ask out. I was at the mall a few days ago and I walked into Lucky Brand Jeans with my best friend and the girl who helped us out was very attractive. She seemed shy and hesitant about everything (maybe her first day on the job?). Anyways, if I go in again in a few days she might recognize me and all, but I was just wondering, what is the best way to actually ask her out, because it's kinda weird doing it while she's working and the store is a bit small..

'Hey if you're not busy this week, could I treat you to some coffee or lunch?' Does that sound about right? Thanks!
If she is interested, you will have a cell number and a coffee date. If she isnt you will either get the truth "I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend" or a lame excuse.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It sounds like your begging to go get coffee. Invite her along for coffee and just pay for it since it's only like 5 bucks. That's not much of a treat.
 

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Well as with any other women in public she gets asked out very often so you will need to get in line and man up and hope she gives you a turn. get her number call and offer her something and hope she agrees to spend time with you.
 
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