"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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listening to womens problems

princesimba

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Just a thought

How do you listen to a women you genuinely care about (say, just a platonic female friend) without becoming her emotional tampon?

What is the right way to do it so that the woman will end up liking you instead of thinking you're weak? We all know there are some awesome men out there who can listen to a girl talk about her problems but still turn it into something wonderful for them
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LMFAO

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She already has a tampon, she doesn't need another one. Tell her to shut up playfully, or kiss her to get her to stop talking.
 

VladPatton

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Negative. Listening to her emotional problems is an expressway to Emotionaltamponville if you are not in an LTR with her. It's the reaction to the cause. Sure, you can win the lottery, but the odds are very against you. You will most likely lose your dollar. Save your dollar.
 

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Yes just tell her talk to her girlfriends about that. Even if you don't like her. Or at least just change the subject. Make a loud buzzer sound like "BEHHHH Negative Talk Stops Now!" and talk about something else.
 

lamobatsman

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so what do you do if shes feeling bad about a lost loved one or something serious. do you still be there for her??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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