"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Listening to a girls problems in a LTR?

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Is this DJ acceptable? I know you're not the girls therapist, but when it's your girlfriend and she has a fight with her family..is it GOOD..BAD..or OK to listen to her problems and try and help her.

I usually try and keep it short but show some support. But earlier she just kept talking and going on about it..it really bothered her. What to do?

Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Depends, do you always follow the DJ idology? It's personal choice, if you think it's of benefit to listen and comfort your girlfriend..(as I would think...), then why the hell not...?

I'll wait for the rejection of this post.
 
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Being supportive by listening to her problems is definitely something you should do in a LTR. Just listen...

But the helping her out with her problems is not part of a DJ mentality. Its her problem - she has to deal with it so you don't need to be her therapist.
 
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Concentrate on making her feel good, even if it means distracting her completely from the problem. 'Change her mood not her mind' :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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...This is the reason why she has female friends, she can go to them to vent her problems :rolleyes:.
 
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If there is anything you can do to help her sort this out, you should. Since this is a problem dealig with her family it is a big issue so the least you can do is listen. Besides, if this is a LTR it could turn out to be your problem too.

In my opinion it is bullsh!t that you shouldn't listen to your g/fs problems when you are in a LTR. The only thing you need to do, is determine wheather or not this is really a problem. If not, try and help her see the bright sight or make her see it's not that big a deal. Even try and distract her or cheering her up by doing something fun so she can forget about it for a while.
 
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