Listening to a girls problems in a LTR?

[shark]

Is this DJ acceptable? I know you're not the girls therapist, but when it's your girlfriend and she has a fight with her family..is it GOOD..BAD..or OK to listen to her problems and try and help her.

I usually try and keep it short but show some support. But earlier she just kept talking and going on about it..it really bothered her. What to do?

Thanks

 

[Docs]

Depends, do you always follow the DJ idology? It's personal choice, if you think it's of benefit to listen and comfort your girlfriend..(as I would think...), then why the hell not...?

I'll wait for the rejection of this post.

 

[flexion_]

Being supportive by listening to her problems is definitely something you should do in a LTR. Just listen...

But the helping her out with her problems is not part of a DJ mentality. Its her problem - she has to deal with it so you don't need to be her therapist.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by shark
Is this DJ acceptable?

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[SlaterT]

Concentrate on making her feel good, even if it means distracting her completely from the problem. 'Change her mood not her mind'

 

[white cloud 8]

...This is the reason why she has female friends, she can go to them to vent her problems .

 

[Caveman]

If there is anything you can do to help her sort this out, you should. Since this is a problem dealig with her family it is a big issue so the least you can do is listen. Besides, if this is a LTR it could turn out to be your problem too.

In my opinion it is bullsh!t that you shouldn't listen to your g/fs problems when you are in a LTR. The only thing you need to do, is determine wheather or not this is really a problem. If not, try and help her see the bright sight or make her see it's not that big a deal. Even try and distract her or cheering her up by doing something fun so she can forget about it for a while.