"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Listen to what she does, not what she says: caught me slipping.

moneyisking

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I think it is generally understood that no matter how much sh!t you read, if you can't comprehend (not just read and understand), then it's pretty much useless cuz what you read you be happening in front of your eyes
and you still can go about it the same way you have been and... FAIL.

Well, I have read about million years ago that as a DJ, I should listen and observe what she does, instead of trusting what she says. That was just so hard thing for me to do, and I read it but never comprehended it. But today, a girl stood me up saying "oh I am busy today, I woke up late, blah blah, but we will DEFINITELY do it soon!" and I am as always thinking oh, she must be busy.

Then it hit me... Wait wtf didn't pook (or fingz, whoever) say never trust what she says, but what she does? and I hit my forehead. Of course! This is what comprehending means! I just ignored her excuse text and didn't reply back, and thought I was a fool that I listened to her words first before observing her action; I mean she could really be busy. Then she will set up a get together next time or at least bring it up next time I see her. I am glad I understood what "comprehending" means today.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is true 95% of the time. Sometimes they are busy , but if you see her set up a new date then she's still interested. Or use the two date rule, if she flakes on the second date then forget her. Best way to go about this. Good post man, always nice to have a good epiphany every now and then to get that head straight
 

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You can use the two date rule but it also depends on how the flaked on the first date...if she just straight didn't show up/text then fvck her there shouldn't be a second date unless she comes to you and pays for the evening.
 

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@droz88 i texted her a little before and said "hey when we going to do this" and then she texted me back she was too busy. I don't plan on setting up another kind of activity until she initiates first.
 

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good response.

she can get back to you, otherwise you're "busy" finding someone else...

A girl I've been bangin a few times over this summer keeps contacting
me every week, I keep telling her I'm too busy.

Not interested in her anymore, but choosing not to be a D!ck about it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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