"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Listen to what she does, not what she says: caught me slipping.

moneyisking

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I think it is generally understood that no matter how much sh!t you read, if you can't comprehend (not just read and understand), then it's pretty much useless cuz what you read you be happening in front of your eyes
and you still can go about it the same way you have been and... FAIL.

Well, I have read about million years ago that as a DJ, I should listen and observe what she does, instead of trusting what she says. That was just so hard thing for me to do, and I read it but never comprehended it. But today, a girl stood me up saying "oh I am busy today, I woke up late, blah blah, but we will DEFINITELY do it soon!" and I am as always thinking oh, she must be busy.

Then it hit me... Wait wtf didn't pook (or fingz, whoever) say never trust what she says, but what she does? and I hit my forehead. Of course! This is what comprehending means! I just ignored her excuse text and didn't reply back, and thought I was a fool that I listened to her words first before observing her action; I mean she could really be busy. Then she will set up a get together next time or at least bring it up next time I see her. I am glad I understood what "comprehending" means today.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is true 95% of the time. Sometimes they are busy , but if you see her set up a new date then she's still interested. Or use the two date rule, if she flakes on the second date then forget her. Best way to go about this. Good post man, always nice to have a good epiphany every now and then to get that head straight
 

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You can use the two date rule but it also depends on how the flaked on the first date...if she just straight didn't show up/text then fvck her there shouldn't be a second date unless she comes to you and pays for the evening.
 

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@droz88 i texted her a little before and said "hey when we going to do this" and then she texted me back she was too busy. I don't plan on setting up another kind of activity until she initiates first.
 

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good response.

she can get back to you, otherwise you're "busy" finding someone else...

A girl I've been bangin a few times over this summer keeps contacting
me every week, I keep telling her I'm too busy.

Not interested in her anymore, but choosing not to be a D!ck about it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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