"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There are different schools of thought here at SS. That's probably the source of the conflict.

1. Approach as many girls and/or sets as possible.

2. Look for eye contact first, so you minimize the number of approaches you have to do in order to close.

3. Build an attractive lifestyle and let women come to you through your daily life and your social circle.


It sounds like El Stud likes #1.

I like #2 myself, but to each their own.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mike32ct said:
There are different schools of thought here at SS. That's probably the source of the conflict.

1. Approach as many girls and/or sets as possible.

2. Look for eye contact first, so you minimize the number of approaches you have to do in order to close.

3. Build an attractive lifestyle and let women come to you through your daily life and your social circle.


It sounds like El Stud likes #1.

I like #2 myself, but to each their own.
I like 2 and 3 myself.
 

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Mike32ct said:
There are different schools of thought here at SS. That's probably the source of the conflict.

1. Approach as many girls and/or sets as possible.

2. Look for eye contact first, so you minimize the number of approaches you have to do in order to close.

3. Build an attractive lifestyle and let women come to you through your daily life and your social circle.


It sounds like El Stud likes #1.

I like #2 myself, but to each their own.
Approach #1 seems mainly to be preached by the PUA crowd who seem to think this is just another PUA forum. I think the real message behind this forum is closer to approach #3.

Approach #2 is just common sense, really.
 

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Smack said:
Approach #1 seems mainly to be preached by the PUA crowd who seem to think this is just another PUA forum. I think the real message behind this forum is closer to approach #3.

Approach #2 is just common sense, really.
PUAs are all about #3. PUA <> TV Show crap.

#3 is the most powerful way to play the game.
 

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I think approaching as many women as possible is good as an exercise (I'm going to do it this spring), but not as a general lifestyle. Although I guess the point is that after doing all that approaching, if you see a girl in day-to-day life that you want to approach, you can do it with no hesitation.

But #3 seems like the best way to be.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Elstud Bro, the real problem is that you don't have any frame control.

Dude, you've even got an entire internet forum to hate on you, and man, if you can't get respect over the internet then how are you going to get it in real life.

You can do a million approaches but as soon as a woman tests you with a neg over her own, or a denial, you go all crazy ass and sensitive.

I bet all your friends have picked up on this as well, a man that can't hold his frame and who fights, whines and complains like you are doing here is a man that gets treated poorly.

You're probably overanalyzing because you seek validation of your proposed worth, bro, you need to stop that because it will hurt your game, you want other people to acknowledge your worth when you won't even accept it in yourself man.

All this picking fights is strictly beta behaviour, same for all the people that have come here to hate, if the brother won't accept the reality in your words then its time to realise that he's not worth the effort, not sink more of your spare time into trying to break an already broken man.
 

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I'd love for him to get on video/audio a few of his approaches.
 

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#3 is NOT the most powerful. It's the flashiest and "coolest," and therefore good for TV. Many of the guys in the PUA community are looking for more than women. They want the VALIDATION more than they want the sex. Therefore that route is perfect for them. Kinda ironic how we break down female behavior to a science, then turn out to act just like them :D

I'm not saying that everyone who chooses this path is a validation whore (though I'm willing to bet a good portion of them are), but I know first hand that forming huge social circles is hardly necessary if you're just looking to meet women. So why bother?
 

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Darth said:
But #3 seems like the best way to be.
It's the best IMO. I can concentrate on being the best I can be and the rest just happens. No flailing around wasting time on endless 'sets'.
 

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dbot said:
#3 is NOT the most powerful. It's the flashiest and "coolest," and therefore good for TV. Many of the guys in the PUA community are looking for more than women. They want the VALIDATION more than they want the sex. Therefore that route is perfect for them. Kinda ironic how we break down female behavior to a science, then turn out to act just like them :D

I'm not saying that everyone who chooses this path is a validation whore (though I'm willing to bet a good portion of them are), but I know first hand that forming huge social circles is hardly necessary if you're just looking to meet women. So why bother?
You have to draw the line where you feel your circle is big enough for yourself.

AFC Adam has videos of him rolling with 200 women. Now that's just crazy. But its cool.

For me, 5 close guy friends (with some game, some job, some looks), 10-15 close female friends (who like to party with me).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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