List of Truths - How to get girls

[AlmostThere!]

These are my own personal truths on what it takes to get girls.

1. You must be a cool person to be around. You should talk to everyone and be easy-going.

2. You must learn how to have playful conversation. Practice understanding how a conversation flows and avoid boring topics.

3. You must have something that's uniquely you. A cool hairstyle, awesome glasses, weird bracelet, or just a certain way you dress yourself. Something a female will pick out and remember.

4. You must listen to females and understand where she is coming from. You have to constantly modify your game and tailor it to each specific girl.

5. You must talk louder (preferably from your diaphragm). I have the habit of speaking quieter in situations I'm not comfortable in. If you talk loud (and deliberately...not fast), people will assume you're a leader.

6. Make eye contact with everyone. And when making eye contact with females, pretend you're trying to look at their soul...give them goosebumps.

7. Make friends. This can be done by following Step #1. Ask a person how their day is going and be genuine about it.

8. In every social situation, take up space and be noticed. Don't stand behind anyone. Get in the center, make eye contact, talk loud.

9. Smile. Not a big toothy grin, but stay away from serious expressions.

10. Have something going for yourself in your life. Whether you're a starving artist or CEO, you should have goals.

11. Start going out. Not just to bars and clubs, but do a little bit of everything. Look in your city/town paper and see what's going on.

12. Get in shape. Dedicate yourself to gaining some weight if you feel less confident about being skinny (if you like being skinny and feel confident, then that's fine), or lose weight if you're fat. Going to the gym is great. It gives you something to do and you will feel good after exercising your body.

13. Don't let anyone hurt your feelings, or ever feel less of yourself. If you you're a cool person and you try to be friendly to everyone you meet, then it's their problem.

BOTTOM LINE

Be friendly to everyone you meet.

Go out and do stuff.

Talk louder and assume leadership role in every social situation you're in.

Find something that's uniquely you and flaunt it. If you like crazy glasses, wear your crazy glasses.

If you haven't done anything wrong to a person and they reject your friendship, then THEY have the problem. Live your life and do not let other people bring you down. Don't let that gorgeous girl make you feel less of a man. Think of her as being narrow-minded and stupid.



Many of these rules are hard for introverts to implement, but you have to re-program your mind. You can upload new software to your mind, but it takes patience and time. The best thing is to pick one thing and work on that until it becomes natural. It may be two weeks before talking louder becomes natural, or it may take months.

And talking loud is very important. Girls do not respond to meek and quiet men. It's just as important as eye contact and good posture.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

And talking loud is very important. Girls do not respond to meek and quiet men. It's just as important as eye contact and good posture.

I've noticed this a lot recently. Just walking into a room with good posture turns a lot of heads in my direction. Even if I haven't showered and I'm still wearing the same clothes I was wearing yesterday.

But it's gotta be the real deal. It has to look like it's coming from within and not just from some attempt at standing up straighter.

 

[Veridin]

Good advice!

10. Have something going for yourself in your life. Whether you're a starving artist or CEO, you should have goals.

Definitely, you have to be prepared for this question - especially if you are done studying and are now working with the job you are likely to have for the foreseeable future. Then what do you answer? Be prepared, because a girl will always want to know. Unless you are making big bucks, she wants to hear something more from you than, "I guess I'm going to just keep going to work as usual, day after day, year after year." Try to add something more.

 

[AlmostThere!]

Good advice!

10. Have something going for yourself in your life. Whether you're a starving artist or CEO, you should have goals.

Definitely, you have to be prepared for this question - especially if you are done studying and are now working with the job you are likely to have for the foreseeable future. Then what do you answer? Be prepared, because a girl will always want to know. Unless you are making big bucks, she wants to hear something more from you than, "I guess I'm going to just keep going to work as usual, day after day, year after year." Try to add something more.

Exactly.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Well, good list. I'd add, only buy want you deem to be worthy of your hard-earned dollar. I bought $99 shoes today, a $70 shirt (uggh), a $96 bluetooth headset (because I needed it kinda), the best and healthy food $90, taking out a loan on a new condo $88,000. I cook only the best cakes/pies that hardly anyone else fixes. Be selective in everything you do, and the women you meet. Bite the bullet, and pay to play.

 

[CaptainJ]

Well, good list. I'd add, only buy want you deem to be worthy of your hard-earned dollar. I bought $99 shoes today, a $70 shirt (uggh), a $96 bluetooth headset (because I needed it kinda), the best and healthy food $90, taking out a loan on a new condo $88,000. I cook only the best cakes/pies that hardly anyone else fixes. Be selective in everything you do, and the women you meet. Bite the bullet, and pay to play.

Wow, you truly sound like an idiot.

Not only did half of what you said make no sense, but you're wasting so much money on things you don't need and then telling people to only buy things of worth.

 

[zekko]

5. You must talk louder (preferably from your diaphragm). I have the habit of speaking quieter in situations I'm not comfortable in. If you talk loud (and deliberately...not fast), people will assume you're a leader.

What's this business about talking loud? I've never heard of that. I know you should talk AUDIBLY. If you're talking too quiet, you need to talk louder.

But you say if you talk loud, people will assume you're a leader.
I say if you talk loud, people will assume you're annoying.
Are you really saying you should talk louder than everybody else?

 

[Cinamon]

What's this business about talking loud? I've never heard of that. I know you should talk AUDIBLY. If you're talking too quiet, you need to talk louder.

But you say if you talk loud, people will assume you're a leader.
I say if you talk loud, people will assume you're annoying.
Are you really saying you should talk louder than everybody else?

I have to agree with Zekko on this one.

Also number 6, is a difficult one. Chances are she will probably think you are a freak or a pervert if you cant pull it off... Its not for everyone.

I dont agree with 8 either, it just looks like you are after attention. It wouldnt impress me.

 

[zekko]

Also number 6, is a difficult one. Chances are she will probably think you are a freak or a pervert if you cant pull it off... Its not for everyone.

I dont agree with 8 either, it just looks like you are after attention. It wouldnt impress me.

Regarding #6, I really like making long eye contact with women. I find it surprising that some guys are uncomfortable with making eye contact with women because I enjoy it. Today I tried the "look into her eyes and imagine you're fvcking her" bit as a girl was talking to me. I don't know if she could tell what I was thinking, but she kind of looked to the side and puckered her lips, which I thought was kind of funny because it was kind of like a kiss motion.

Regarding #8, I do practice "take up space" body language as I find it comes quite naturally to me. The "get in the center and talk loud" and "don't stand behind anyone" bit puts me off. I don't think it should be necessary to be the center of attention at all times, that just seems needy.

 

[Warrior74]

What's this business about talking loud? I've never heard of that. I know you should talk AUDIBLY. If you're talking too quiet, you need to talk louder.

But you say if you talk loud, people will assume you're a leader.
I say if you talk loud, people will assume you're annoying.
Are you really saying you should talk louder than everybody else?

Loud = projecting well. I just took an xmas job at the mall and I notice that when I project well and talk with authority, I have better interaction with my customers and sell more product, when I talk softly (usually when I'm tired of first get to work) I get a weaker interaction and lower sales. I also notice that with my difficult female clients, the more I project, the less BS they tend to give me. They tend to trust me more and follow my lead. Most people don't know what they want, but you can guide them to it with a strong presence.

 

[AlmostThere!]

Loud = projecting well. I just took an xmas job at the mall and I notice that when I project well and talk with authority, I have better interaction with my customers and sell more product, when I talk softly (usually when I'm tired of first get to work) I get a weaker interaction and lower sales. I also notice that with my difficult female clients, the more I project, the less BS they tend to give me. They tend to trust me more and follow my lead. Most people don't know what they want, but you can guide them to it with a strong presence.

Exactly.

Have you ever been unsure of yourself and spoke in a softer tone because you didn't want to be loud and wrong? If you constantly talk like that, people won't take you seriously and girls will ignore you. Loud = confidence

 

[Veridin]

Wow, you truly sound like an idiot.

Not only did half of what you said make no sense, but you're wasting so much money on things you don't need and then telling people to only buy things of worth.

Now, now. He just bought all those expensive things, so of course he needed a thread to work it in to.

 

[cola]

Wow, you truly sound like an idiot.

Not only did half of what you said make no sense, but you're wasting so much money on things you don't need and then telling people to only buy things of worth.

Sounds like a f*cking genious to me. Its a fact; Having money (preferably to spend on them) is a shortcut to the poonani. If he has it to spend why hate on him?

 

[nismo-4]

Sounds like a f*cking genious to me. Its a fact; Having money (preferably to spend on them) is a shortcut to the poonani. If he has it to spend why hate on him?

I'd prefer having a S 550 Mercedes as well as carrying mad money. I wouldn't let the girl know I got it.

Money is a great way to speed up the attraction process.

 

[Phenomenal One]

#5 - I've always been a solf talker but a few months ago i noticed that when a talk loud/with athority people listen to me and take me more seriously. i really started talkin more loudly because people would dismiss what i'd say then keep talking as if they did'nt believe what i said, like a salesman tryin to sell their product.

 

[old married dude]

3. You must have something that's uniquely you. A cool hairstyle, awesome glasses, weird bracelet, or just a certain way you dress yourself. Something a female will pick out and remember.

+10,000

This is great advice. Girls get sick of interacting with guys while they're out who are all wearing Ed Hardy sh1t and Affliction t-shirts, and are all wearing Aqua Di Gio cologne.

Standing out from the crowd will certainly get you noticed. My motto has always been "Be a trend setter & not a trend follower."