"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Lil boy box and big boy box

Chamber36

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Well I just went out and I feel like there's a box for the lil boys and a box for the big boys.

do we all have to fake it till we make it?

WTFF
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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and is the only way to make it to go for a subpar girlfriend???

She mightn't even be subpar to other women. But I think that might be the key. The subpar girlfriend.
 

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Yeah, it is true. But you have to make it, not just fake it. Subpar girlfriends....., well you could cheat and go with a nice older woman, single mothers, low self-esteem, crazy ones, married women wanting to cheat. No fat chicks! They are out there....and not that hard to get with. The thing is that they are subpar.... so you get what you pay for. I am only interested in quality ones for a relationship, and the rest is just sex, hopefully steady sex. Also there are more boxes than you describe....it's more like an HB scale for guys.
 

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And as the year goes on the ugly girls are feeling better and better and better.

I saw this HB who was flirting with me last night. She gt approached by 3 guys, then I apprached her, and she barelly gave me a chance. The AFC's here are ruining my chances.

So my tactic for tonight is to not ask any serious questions at all.

I will be going out in interview mode asking is people prefer yellow to pink elephants or horses to goats.

I'm tired of the old where you from, who you here with, how you gettin home? All that same old boring crap. It doesn't get u no where.
 

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In places where a lot of people approach, it is about the attitude. Some women are looking for a guy who is just gonna come up and grab their hand, then take them away, save them from the creepy dudes. Gotta stand out and use the right thing at the right time on the RIGHT woman. When people talk about that it is the numbers game.... I agree only partially, because this thing is inefficient if you are all over the place. Proper target identification is just as important, and it is rather here where the numbers do amplify the game. Be observant, learn to read people, pick the right ones and go for it. It takes two tango.
Dont forget to Have Fun. Happy Hunting.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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