"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I truly love my job, but I have a very irregular work roster. One day I work long nights, the other in the morning, the other in the evening. But I also have to work on saturday and sunday. Which leads to the fact that sometimes I can join my friends for a drink, but can't stay long because I have to work the next day.

My social life is very very important to me and this is really disturbing me. How can I deal with this? I don't want to give up my job, but it's getting unbearable.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi SayWhat,
What you describe is a truly horrendous picture....also very unhealthy,impossible for the bodies Circadian rhythms to adjust to...It's an intractable situation but does give you time to look for another Job...In the mean time you just have to get on with it,perhaps a waitress or a young Nurse might be the answer,they also work shocking hours.
 
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Is it a lifetime deal? Or are you the low man on the totem pole? Do the hours get better with seniority? All things we need to know.....ANYTHING can be lived with for a year, but a lifetime of that? no thanks. Then I'd find the new job in the same field....
 
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so what? are you a medic and is working your ass now? well get used to it, any job you take will make you work like hell till you get in a nice position to choose how you will work.

also try to pass more info
 
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The job earns more than double of what is average in my country. I have a diploma (not in what I am doing now), but that will earn me only 1/4 or maybe 1/3 of what I have now.

When I work during the weekend, I get days off during the week somewhere else. On sunday I get payed 150%, at night as well.

I'm not at the lowest tier, nor at the highest tier in my company, it's a very specialized job and am able to grow in this company but that will lead to the fact I can't perform my current work anymore.

It is a lifetime deal, but can retire when I'm 55.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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so, basically, you are earning 3 or 4 years pay for every ONE year you can put up with the ****ty hours..... If you quit, are your drinking buddies or the women who didn't sleep with you because you are busy going to make up the difference in pay? Probably not, so I'm not sure I'd worry too much about them.

IF you are too tired to function or take care of yourself, quit. BUT, if it's just a social life issue..... keep working. I lost 3 or 4 girlfriends in Dental School because of a lack of time..... still have the Degree, and the cash that comes with it. I'm burning out at work, working 5 days a week for 31 years in Dentistry does that. So my issue is part time or quit? going to be forced into a decision in a year or so.....When you get there, decide part time or quit for yourself....
 
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Dear Sodbuster,
So tell me,what are you buying one half as good as what you sell?
 
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