"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Like 2 girls at present,1 or both!

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Was at the gym a yesterday.I nodded my head at a fine piece of ass from a tryhard meathead's girlfriend.She gave me a smile then looked down as I whet to the dressing room.She was alone this time(The boyfriend seems to be around most of the time!)I have seen her 3 or 4 times with good eye contact.

At the coffee shop I work at, there is a girl who comes in from a nearby tanning shop.I have seen her twice now.This time i made her aware that I saw her today while I was walking past her shop.I went along with my duties as usual.Saw her turn her head my way to see if I was paying attention.
I said bye and hope to see you soon.She had a little grin on her face after that.

One or both ?:rockon:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This might come as a surprise, but a lot of women smile, make eye contact, and do small talk because they're friendly, polite, and confident. It doesn't necessarily mean that they're interested in you.

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Meh, whatever. Might as well persue both and find out which one you like better.
 

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BOTH. Well to be completely honest that reply does not even matter. Rejection is only a building block to the man you want to become anyways. If she had like a sly smile your good. Chicks get crushes and then visit those areas and stuff like that. If a chick likes you and is scared to approach you (which is like 99% of the time) she will just try to be around you and hope you will talk to her. You may as well go for both since you set yourself up for oneitis if you go for one.
 

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IamtheAlphamale said:
BOTH. Well to be completely honest that reply does not even matter. Rejection is only a building block to the man you want to become anyways. If she had like a sly smile your good. Chicks get crushes and then visit those areas and stuff like that. If a chick likes you and is scared to approach you (which is like 99% of the time) she will just try to be around you and hope you will talk to her. You may as well go for both since you set yourself up for oneitis if you go for one.
Update for the girl at the tanning shop!

1. Last Good Friday, she walked past the shop and looked in and saw me.Held eye contact a few seconds.

2. yesterday I was walking to the internet cafe from work to run a quick message to someone.Saw her outside the mall smoking!
I made a casual comment 'I didn't know you smoked' she laughted!
(had no time to stop and talk)

3. Today she walked past the shop and looked in, plus held eye contact.

She does not smile though.Is there a LOI ?
 

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johncrawford said:
Update for the girl at the tanning shop!

1. Last Good Friday, she walked past the shop and looked in and saw me.Held eye contact a few seconds.

2. yesterday I was walking to the internet cafe from work to run a quick message to someone.Saw her outside the mall smoking!
I made a casual comment 'I didn't know you smoked' she laughted!
(had no time to stop and talk)

3. Today she walked past the shop and looked in, plus held eye contact.

She does not smile though.Is there a LOI ?
I was at work today and saw the tanning girl sitting outside with a child!
I looked at her first and thought is that her? so did she.This happened a few times until she smiled and waved:)
So I went out to see her and said "I didn't know you had a child?"
Oh it's not mine she said:yes:
I said are you still working at the tanning shop?
she said no.So I found out her name was Megan.
Then just asked'are you single by the way?'
YES she said:cheer:
Got her number and will call tomorrow.:rockon:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How can you choose either without trying them both? :confused:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
How can you choose either without trying them both? :confused:
Just got the tanning girls number.To much hassle with the the gym girl.:cool:
 

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Just got the tanning girls number.To much hassle with the the gym girl.:cool:
you've gotta start spinning more plates, john brother...
 

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Poonani Maker said:
you've gotta start spinning more plates, john brother...
Her boyfriend is always hanging around:moon:

I know she watchs me,even more so since i've uped the weights at the gym.

What's the best way to go about her then?
 

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johncrawford said:
Her boyfriend is always hanging around:moon:

I know she watchs me,even more so since i've uped the weights at the gym.

What's the best way to go about her then?
Don't worry about her. Go find another. And another. And another.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Poonani Maker said:
Don't worry about her. Go find another. And another. And another.
Just got a text from the tanning girl saying"that it would be really nice to go out next weekend if I am free?x
 

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johncrawford said:
Just got a text from the tanning girl saying"that it would be really nice to go out next weekend if I am free?x
Ask her where she'd take you. ;)
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Ask her where she'd take you. ;)
She goes to college.So not the ritz:) Don't know her age,but young!

I'm 28 and only seem to attract 18-24!!:rock:
 

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She goes to college.So not the ritz:) Don't know her age,but young!

I'm 28 and only seem to attract 18-24!!:rock:
So??!! She can still pick you up on her Schwinn and ride you on the handlebars...
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So??!! She can still pick you up on her Schwinn and ride you on the handlebars...
Had a dry spell the last 2 months.So that would be cool:up:
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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johncrawford said:
Had a dry spell the last 2 months.So that would be cool:up:
None the less, help her feel good about herself by allowing her to do something for you. Even if it's a $1 movie at a second run theater. We all know that the good woman of character out there enjoy doing things for a guy, here's a good qualifier to determine if she may be one of those women. When it comes down to it, it is the thought that counts.
 

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johncrawford said:
Her boyfriend is always hanging around:moon:

I know she watchs me,even more so since i've uped the weights at the gym.

What's the best way to go about her then?
hmm... that's a tough one, wait, I know... since you don't have the balls to speak to her, bring the tanning girl. She has enough balls for you both.

PS... better to have tried and failed than to never play the game.
 

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Crank_It_Up said:
hmm... that's a tough one, wait, I know... since you don't have the balls to speak to her, bring the tanning girl. She has enough balls for you both.

PS... better to have tried and failed than to never play the game.
It's not that I don't have the balld bud:rolleyes:

Just there's other options without hassle.

I go to the gym 4 times a week.See her maybe twice in that week.There are other hotter girls, so why fret it!:up:
 

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johncrawford said:
It's not that I don't have the balld bud:rolleyes:

Just there's other options without hassle.

I go to the gym 4 times a week.See her maybe twice in that week.There are other hotter girls, so why fret it!:up:
right, you have balls, and you're not fretting about it, you're just bringing it up on the forum cause aliens have taken over your mind right?

johncrawford said:
...She gave me a smile then looked down as I whet to the dressing room.She was alone this time(The boyfriend seems to be around most of the time!)I have seen her 3 or 4 times with good eye contact...
hmm.... her boyfriend was not around and all you did was make eye contact, wow, you have balls :rolleyes: What's next? Pass her a note at the water fountain?
 

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right, you have balls, and you're not fretting about it, you're just bringing it up on the forum cause aliens have taken over your mind right?

hmm.... her boyfriend was not around and all you did was make eye contact, wow, you have balls :rolleyes: What's next? Pass her a note at the water fountain?
I hear what you mean Bud.I must have lost interest to be honest:crackup:
At my last gym I cracked on to another girl with a boyfriend.At the end it was a waste of time.:(

As I said there's other single girls at the gym.Why bother about this one?:wave:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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