"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lifetime Relationship - how do you know its the right person

The Dominated1

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I am getting older these days and I guess one day I would like to settle down and have a family etc (not just yet however).

But how do you know when you have met the right person?

Out of the female population there is not many that I would like to have a relationship with. I guess I am picky..

However out of all the women I have had a relationship with, I wouldnt want to marry any of them.

Do you know instinctively when you have met the one?

How do you know when you have found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Austin Allegro

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I think you have to stop thinking in terms of pots of gold at the ends of rainbows - if you think that marriage or 'the one' will make your life complete that will cause problems.

I think if you meet someone who you find attractive, you get on with and have a compatible background with, and who shares a lot of the same goals etc, you can't ask for more.

The bottom line is that in modern western society, marriage is no longer for life and 'the one' could walk out on you or get bored with you at any time (and the same could happen to you).
 

Chrispy

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Not that I'm married...but settling is more like finding a partner with whom you can work things out with as situations arise.
So for example, you would not want to be with someone who doesn't tolerate much, doesn't want to go through challenges and obstacles, or is not compromising.
 

Glenfiddich101

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Well Dominated, if you're looking for a life partner then you sure as hell better be picky abt it.

I'm like you, i date alot but hardly get attracted to them.

Sometimes i find the women thesedays getting too strong minded, strong willed. If given a strap on dildo, they sure as hell gona make you bent over.

I've always had a thing for chicks with a gentle spirit. Women who are easy going and compromising. In return i feel they will be very cherised by their man.

Nowdays all you get is "I'm all woman, hear me roar"
 

FratAndDiddy

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if it evers happens for ya bro, then i assume you both will know it without putting yourselves thru the mind game test.

i've been married 3 times and there aint no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. just debts and kids.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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