"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lifeforce Weightlifting Journal
- Thread starter Lifeforce
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Military Presses 8x47.5 kg New Record
Military Presses 5x47.5 kg
Squats 8x110 kg New Record
Squats 5x115 kg New Record
Squats 4x120 kg New Record
(I'm feeling way stronger in the squat than ever before, I don't pause between reps nowadays like I used to)
Didn't do SLDL because I want to wait another week before going all out so my back is well. I wasn't suppossed to do squats either but what the hell
Biceps curl 8x37.5 kg
Biceps curl 4x37.5 kg
Biceps curl 4x32.5 kg
Partial chin ups 3 set
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Todays workout
Skull crushers 6x40 kg New record
Dips 9x20 kg New record (focused on going slowly and deeply)
Dips 5x22.5 kg New record
Dips 3or4x22.5 kg
Now howabout that double
Deadlifts 5x125 kg (grip failed) New Record
Deadlifts 6x125 kg (grip failed) New Record
Deadlifts 4x125 kg (farted and the grip failed
)7 Pull ups (all the way down slowly and all the way up but no rest on the bottom) New Record
5 chin ups
T-bar rows 7x60 kg New Record
Good mornings 8x85 kg
Squats 20x85 kg
I was pretty disoriented today.. checked out different exercises. I'm definatly gonna go with pull-ups instead of rows.
leaves me speechless.Originally posted by Lifeforce
Dips 9x20 kg New record (focused on going slowly and deeply)
Dips 5x22.5 kg New record
Dips 3or4x22.5 kg
Now howabout that double
why has your grip failed??you are so good in staticholds??good work with the deads anyway
you know that upping the rows helps upping your bench way more then pullups?
Bench press 1x80 kg Wide
Bench press 3x75 kg Wide
Bench press 3x75 kg Semi Wide
Db bench press 6x30 kg New Record
Db bench press 4x30 kg
Db bench press 2x30 kg
Biceps curl 5x40 kg
Partial chin ups 3 set
Biceps Curl 3x35 lol =)
Wrist Curls 8+x35 New Record
Wrist Curls 6x35 (15 breaths pause)
Wrist curls dropset (35, 27.5 22.5 17.5)
Walking with plats 1 lapx110 kg New Record
Walking with plats 1 lapx110 kg
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
****ty workout last time, good workout this time.
Military Presses 6x50 kg New Record
Military Presses 5x50 kg
Push press negatives 4x65 kg
Push press negatives 1x65 kg
Starting 5x5 on deadlifts goal is 5x160 within 16 weeks.
5x80
5x90
5x100
5x115
5x125 Same as old PR
The sets just flew up
BTW I have a story to tell
the night began pretty boring, no one showed up on time and half of the people were suppossed not to drink.
Well, we were a cool bunch of four people who started things up with some drinking songs and a 6er shot of vodka down the throat.
Then of course stuff began to happen. we had some group singing and then kareoke... my shy friend began with singing gumbi bears or what they're called. Then my two mates and I started with down under and brave sir robin with a twist of "we are the world" and Sly and the familty stone Play that funky music.
Everyone was happy drunk and funny so we had some more drinking songs and drank up and went to watch the fireworks in the city. On the way there we took some shots from our bottles of vodka and then my friend threw the bottle through a window.
We watched the fireworks start and it was beautiful... we congratulated, clapped our hands and aahh and ooooohhed alot. Then I ran away and hid the vodka.
Now stuff really began to pick up. My friends and I went to a carousel called joyride. After one of my friends jumped up on a car and down we stood in line and there were some dudes who got ahead in line... my friend and I were pissed so we agreed we should pick a fight... my friend hit one in the back and he turned around. We started to accuse them of getting ahead in line and stuff like that. Just when the fun began my friend hugged one of them because he had a "hug me" T-shirt.
Anyway.. we went in the carousel and sang very loud while I was squished to the side very hard.. felt like a bone were about to pop.
After the ride I tossed some balls at some cans and won a foot. Then we went and got the vodka and drank some more while we walked around. I picked up a girl and got her number* Then we had a group drinking and emptied the bottles and went to another ride. He was from romania so we talked about dracula with him and he was cool. We got like double the ordinary time in the ride because he seemed to like us. While we rode we sang alot... or rather screamed songs...
After the ride I won another foot and approached a chich who had a boyfriend. About five minutes later I picked up another.
I walked towards the girl with my newly won foot and told the girl my foot liked her so I had to talk to her. But I said I was in a hurry so it would be cool if I could get her number and call her up and go do something. Got her number within one minute**
Then not so much stuff happened. we sang some more and I talked to a policeman with a batoon. Ohh.. some girls approached me and it was pretty fun... got her number too.
* She was almost estatic when I called today... definitly will have a good time with that girl
** I think it's 50/50 with this girl. I got the approval from her friends because they walked away a little distance and left her alone when I talked to her. So I have some chance.
The third girl I'm meeting up with at some time... don't know nothing yet..
fun evening though. When I came home I cleaned my toilet.
big deadlift goal you have there.
funny story man, your friends sound fun as well!
ROFL!
good job with the PUA'ing too. i love it when you use the word extatic, never heard it from anyone else i think, im gonna implement that in my own choice of words
GREAT JOB with the toilet cleaning man, and that in the middle of the night! the mess has now chance!!
My friends are the ****... great people to party with. They do however don't like that I hit on women so blatantly haha
Thanks dude, it was a while ago I did closes in the open. Use extatic it's a cool word as you say. I never have heard other people use it either. It can be our thing you know.
Over to the workout
Squats 5x120 264 lbs
Squats 6x120 264 lbs
Squats 4x120 kg 264 lbs
Squats 3x125 275 lbs
Pull-Ups 10x0
Pull-Ups 6x0
Chin-Ups 8x0
Rows 8x65 kg
Rows 4x65 kg
One Arm Row 6-8x32.5 kg
One Arm Row 6-8x32.5 kg
Calf Raises 10x115 kg 253 lbs
Calf Raises 6x115 kg 253 lbs
Calf Raises 8x115 kg 253 lbs
Leg raises attached to machine 17x15 kg 33 lbs
Leg raises attached to machine 6-8x15 kg 33 lbs rest pause
Leg raises attached to machine (negatives) 6x25 kg
Weight 77.5 kg 170.5 lbs -0.5 kg 1 lbs
Felt awesome... The squats went super.. Almost got 6 reps first time I did 120 kg.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Incline Db Bench press 7x30 kg
Incline Db Bench press 6x30 kg
Incline Db Bench press 2x30 kg
Some biceps curls and chin ups
SLDL8x105 kg
SLDL1x105 kg was tired this pass.
Sorry everyone but I'm off to bed.. I'll reply later to everything.
vanwilder
Senior Don Juan
Deadlift 5x105 kg 231 lbs
Deadlift 4x115 kg 253 lbs
Deadlift 5x120 kg 264 lbs
Deadlift 6(got 7 almost at top but grip failed)x130 kg 287 lbs
(BROKE MY PREVIOUS MAX RECORD FROM OLD! ****ing light weight, just flew up)
Skull crushers 6x40 kg 88 lbs
Skull crushers 4x40 kg 88 lbs
Skull crushers 9x35 kg 77 lbs
Pull-Ups 8x0
Pull-Ups 5x0
T-bar Rows 8x60 kg
One Arm Row 6-8x32.5 kg
Weight 78 kg without shoes
Thanks vanwilder and gav. Gav, no dude.. I'm not lifting to compete.
My alltime record is 4x39 kg =D"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.