Life is better for those who don't care.

[jhonny9546]

Life is better for those who don't care.

How is it possible to learn not to care about superfluous things, according to our values, or is it a personality disorder we're born with, not learned?

Furthermore, there are some who will pretend not to care, but in reality they behave that way because they've planned everything, to see your reaction, and depending on your reaction, they will either rejoice or not. So these are the fakes, who don't care about you or that thing, but who can't help but think about it. So, if anything, we'll think about it more than others.

 

[Ricky]

A certain amount of genuine interest in people followed by detachment goes a long way.

 

[jhonny9546]

It doesn't apply to "genuinely curious" people like me.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Life is better for those who don't care.

How is it possible to learn not to care about superfluous things, according to our values, or is it a personality disorder we're born with, not learned?

A couple of ways:

-Recognize that "caring" alone is worth fu-king nothing. One example: Two centuries, going on THREE centuries of efforts by "caring" people

have generated immeasurable misery, on a global scale. Caring, empathy, and compassion DO NOT inherently translate into moral behavior

-Become cognizant of the fact that much(if not most)emotional agony among humans originates from our being melded to our own desires, and never recognizing that said desires are really just personal PREFERENCES... The Almigty is under no obligation to make life shake out exactly the way we want it to, no matter how fervid our desires might be

 

[zekko]

Recognize that "caring" alone is worth fu-king nothing.

Action is better than caring.
I think this thread is a bit "the grass is always greener" though.
Do you really think sociopaths have a better life? If you could press a button, would you make yourself a sociopath? I wouldn't.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Do you really think sociopaths have a better life?

In SOME respects sure, same way Taylor Swift's had a "better life" financially than most people on this planet could ever dream of. Goes without saying, sociopathy and being Taylor Swift have their drawbacks also...

Once your reputation for glibbness and superficial charm gets around, fewer and fewer reputable folk have any desire to associate with you: Google Al Dunlop. Similar to the way Swift's days as the toast of the recording industry are likely winding down, now that LARPING as a high school girl is getting more and more laughable: Even SHE seems cognizant of this

While she's had an impressive run careerwise, this doesn't change the fact that TS still likely has decades worth of life left, and is really going to have some sh-t to grapple with, once her star has ceased to shine, despite having been red-hot since her late teens


To OP's point though: Detaching from our own desires, taking a Que Sera Sera approach to life("Yes, I'd prefer for X to happen... The cosmos won't implode if X DOESN'T go exactly as I'd prefer either")is highly achievable. It's also not something that comes naturally to most though, and thus requires practice