"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Life is a bitter competition

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For men especially, as our role in our species is the more battered by nature. Our position in our social environment is far more precarious than the position of a female. Unlike women, men are not born into value, a man must create his own. We can through our hard work, become the idealized image of success or an example of pathetic failure. We must be independent, strong, humble but proud,) compassionate, and all in a balance decided by the society in which we live. Each one of us is more alone in life than the average women could imagine.

It really is every man for himself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Societal standards of appearance, behavior, etc.. are cultural norms, not nature.
 
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Life is a very, very, VERY lonely path for a Man to walk through.

But I believe that he has access to COMPANIONS along this path that he can travel with. Some will drift away, some will stay with him for awhile, some will try to get in his way, and some will give up, stop walking, and resort to a life of mediocrity.

I think you're coming to a major realization in your young life. And that is a good thing because now you can handle the real world with a clear perspective.
 
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itachi said:
Societal standards of appearance, behavior, etc.. are cultural norms, not nature.
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A society or culture can't be taken out of the context of nature.....It is after all a product of natural environmental pressures on humans.
 
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I'm beginning to come to the same conclusion. Life is harder than i ever imagined in my previous reality.

But I believe that he has access to COMPANIONS along this path that he can travel with. Some will drift away, some will stay with him for awhile, some will try to get in his way, and some will give up, stop walking, and resort to a life of mediocrity.
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Nice way of putting it
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Eloquence isn't working for you, so stop trying.

Nature is an inherent characteristic of the system being described, independent of our activities.
Cultural norms are a part of society that constantly change through our activities. How we define the set of standards, and desire to follow them, is a part of our nature; what we define them to be isn't.
Nature isn't relative to a culture.

Next time, do your research before you try and argue. There are plenty of books out there on gender roles, nature vs. nurture, and cultural relativism.
 
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When did you guys start feeling this way.. Or start realizing that life is this way? I am 22 years old, work full time, and live on my own. I have been thinking about how much this life is really all up to you lately. And it excites me... I have the control over what i want to push myself into.. Alot of my friends are still at home with there moms at the moment. Some are even married! A few have kids and are forced to be fathers. I have no kids.. am single right now.. and living on my own. So the world is open to me. I have to conquer a few fears that are on my agenda right now and hopefully i learn the lessons im supposed to.. then i can focus on who knows what.. cuz sure as hell dont.
 
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