"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Life is a bitter competition

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For men especially, as our role in our species is the more battered by nature. Our position in our social environment is far more precarious than the position of a female. Unlike women, men are not born into value, a man must create his own. We can through our hard work, become the idealized image of success or an example of pathetic failure. We must be independent, strong, humble but proud,) compassionate, and all in a balance decided by the society in which we live. Each one of us is more alone in life than the average women could imagine.

It really is every man for himself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Societal standards of appearance, behavior, etc.. are cultural norms, not nature.
 

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Life is a very, very, VERY lonely path for a Man to walk through.

But I believe that he has access to COMPANIONS along this path that he can travel with. Some will drift away, some will stay with him for awhile, some will try to get in his way, and some will give up, stop walking, and resort to a life of mediocrity.

I think you're coming to a major realization in your young life. And that is a good thing because now you can handle the real world with a clear perspective.
 

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itachi said:
Societal standards of appearance, behavior, etc.. are cultural norms, not nature.
A society or culture can't be taken out of the context of nature.....It is after all a product of natural environmental pressures on humans.
 

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I'm beginning to come to the same conclusion. Life is harder than i ever imagined in my previous reality.

But I believe that he has access to COMPANIONS along this path that he can travel with. Some will drift away, some will stay with him for awhile, some will try to get in his way, and some will give up, stop walking, and resort to a life of mediocrity.
Nice way of putting it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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itachi

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Eloquence isn't working for you, so stop trying.

Nature is an inherent characteristic of the system being described, independent of our activities.
Cultural norms are a part of society that constantly change through our activities. How we define the set of standards, and desire to follow them, is a part of our nature; what we define them to be isn't.
Nature isn't relative to a culture.

Next time, do your research before you try and argue. There are plenty of books out there on gender roles, nature vs. nurture, and cultural relativism.
 

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When did you guys start feeling this way.. Or start realizing that life is this way? I am 22 years old, work full time, and live on my own. I have been thinking about how much this life is really all up to you lately. And it excites me... I have the control over what i want to push myself into.. Alot of my friends are still at home with there moms at the moment. Some are even married! A few have kids and are forced to be fathers. I have no kids.. am single right now.. and living on my own. So the world is open to me. I have to conquer a few fears that are on my agenda right now and hopefully i learn the lessons im supposed to.. then i can focus on who knows what.. cuz sure as hell dont.
 
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