Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Life in the fast lane

anonymous12345

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I perceive it as that for various reasons I’ve lived a very fast life for a decade or so. A lot of stress, adrenaline. Everything from free diving to performing on stage and what not in between. I don’t know happiness in some way, perhaps short periods some day here and there.

It seems it now slows down. And I find that very difficult to handle. Sleeping decently is rare for me, I’m perplexed at what to do with a “regular” life. Watch TV, lol.

I take risk in responsible ways I think, but I must say there is some part of me that likes pressure, like some kind of addiction personality. I had no idea.

How do people approach these things? Shall one live the IKEA life, or let the chips fall where they may?

Perhaps find some balance. Reasonably healthy, but not too boring either. Will be demanding to do the reduction/change, though. Tbh, don't want to.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been a speed junkie all my life. If it's got wheels I will find the limits. But there was a 10yr period I went thru that I crashed everything you can crash. Broke several bones. Hospital stays. Road motorcycles everywhere. Outran the cops many times. Used to party 3 nites a week. Often At the lake on a boat at party cove, lots of naked girls. Raced cars on the weekend. Never home. Dated a few t!tty dancers. Changed out girlfriends every 2-3months. Have a ton of crazy fun memories.

Had a blast. Got the most out of life. With age I've slowed down and sometimes it drives me crazy. I often feel if I am not out doing something that I am wasting my life away. I'm either working or doing something. Not one to watch much TV nor sit around.

But my advice is to do it as long as you can right until the wheels come off. You always pay a price for living fast. You don't get out unscathed. But it's worth the risk.
 

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