alphamailman
Don Juan
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Life After High School
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just relax. College begins a lot like high school, the only difference is that it costs a ton of money, and you can choose whether or not you attend a particular day's class/es.
If you get to your Junior year of college and decide you want to change majors....do it. It's ok. Make sure you are happy with the major you choose, don't choose it because you think you should.
As you grow up you will realize that pleasing your parents, friends, coaches, etc isn't what is best for you. Each decision you make needs to benefit you only. If you are not happy with your choices, then the people around you won't be either. In the same vein, you will also realize that it doesn't matter what other people think about you, and you will start to become comfortable in your own skin.
Here is a secret....nobody feels ready for the 'real world' and everybody wishes they were a kid again. Being an adult isn't all fun, but it's not all work either. Greater responsibility has greater consequences, and also better rewards.
You are on the precipice of something great and vast...adulthood. Just like the first time you went to ride a bike without training wheels, you will naturally be a bit scared but once you get going and start to trust yourself, it's the best feeling in the world.
Good Luck!
If you get to your Junior year of college and decide you want to change majors....do it. It's ok. Make sure you are happy with the major you choose, don't choose it because you think you should.
As you grow up you will realize that pleasing your parents, friends, coaches, etc isn't what is best for you. Each decision you make needs to benefit you only. If you are not happy with your choices, then the people around you won't be either. In the same vein, you will also realize that it doesn't matter what other people think about you, and you will start to become comfortable in your own skin.
Here is a secret....nobody feels ready for the 'real world' and everybody wishes they were a kid again. Being an adult isn't all fun, but it's not all work either. Greater responsibility has greater consequences, and also better rewards.
You are on the precipice of something great and vast...adulthood. Just like the first time you went to ride a bike without training wheels, you will naturally be a bit scared but once you get going and start to trust yourself, it's the best feeling in the world.
Good Luck!
