alphamailman
Don Juan
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Life After High School
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just relax. College begins a lot like high school, the only difference is that it costs a ton of money, and you can choose whether or not you attend a particular day's class/es.
If you get to your Junior year of college and decide you want to change majors....do it. It's ok. Make sure you are happy with the major you choose, don't choose it because you think you should.
As you grow up you will realize that pleasing your parents, friends, coaches, etc isn't what is best for you. Each decision you make needs to benefit you only. If you are not happy with your choices, then the people around you won't be either. In the same vein, you will also realize that it doesn't matter what other people think about you, and you will start to become comfortable in your own skin.
Here is a secret....nobody feels ready for the 'real world' and everybody wishes they were a kid again. Being an adult isn't all fun, but it's not all work either. Greater responsibility has greater consequences, and also better rewards.
You are on the precipice of something great and vast...adulthood. Just like the first time you went to ride a bike without training wheels, you will naturally be a bit scared but once you get going and start to trust yourself, it's the best feeling in the world.
Good Luck!
If you get to your Junior year of college and decide you want to change majors....do it. It's ok. Make sure you are happy with the major you choose, don't choose it because you think you should.
As you grow up you will realize that pleasing your parents, friends, coaches, etc isn't what is best for you. Each decision you make needs to benefit you only. If you are not happy with your choices, then the people around you won't be either. In the same vein, you will also realize that it doesn't matter what other people think about you, and you will start to become comfortable in your own skin.
Here is a secret....nobody feels ready for the 'real world' and everybody wishes they were a kid again. Being an adult isn't all fun, but it's not all work either. Greater responsibility has greater consequences, and also better rewards.
You are on the precipice of something great and vast...adulthood. Just like the first time you went to ride a bike without training wheels, you will naturally be a bit scared but once you get going and start to trust yourself, it's the best feeling in the world.
Good Luck!
