I've been with my gf now for about 8 months or so. We get along well and things had been going fine. Then about 3 or 4 months back, we were chatting one night about a guy she had been dating just before me.
I wouldn't normally ask about somethign like this because I know that kind of sh*t will bother me, but it just kind of came up. She was very vague about it and gave me a few details and that was ok by me. It had been over a few months before we me...that's what she told me since she knew I would never date someone just coming out of a relationship...even if she was the one who ended it.
Anyway, the details she had given me, made me curious about a few things(again some things that if I would've known earlier, I might not have dated her). The conversation always stayed in the back of my mind and would always come back to bother me. I didn't really want to bring it up to her again, because I felt that it was MY issue. Anyway, it did come up some more times over the past 2-3 months and each time the new details she gave me didn't really match with the old stuff. So things continued to stick in my mind and I was really frustrated because I wanted to just get over it and move on further into our relationship because everything else was good.
So flash forward to this past weekend. Things came up for the last time and I explained to her why things had been bothering me. So this time she gave me the true information and then when I asked her a few questions it tripped her up and I discovered that she had lied about a few of the major details like how long it had been since she broke up with him before she met me. I found out that it had only been like a week...and not 2 months like she had lied about over and over.
She told me that she really loved me (more than anyone else in her past)and knew that I wouldn't have dated her if I had known the details earlier on. So she continued to hide things and lie about it until I tripped her up and this late stage in the game.
Anyway, I forgave her for lying. BUt what should I do about it? After our talk she was in tears and felt really bad. I didn't get mad at her, just she realized it wasn't good.
I know that i definetely would have nexted her if I knew this info awhile back...but what should I do about it now? Should I let her off the hook completely and treat her like it never happened when she calls me(she just did but I was on the other line)? Or should I next her or put her on probation? Let me know what you would do. Thanks.
M.
I wouldn't normally ask about somethign like this because I know that kind of sh*t will bother me, but it just kind of came up. She was very vague about it and gave me a few details and that was ok by me. It had been over a few months before we me...that's what she told me since she knew I would never date someone just coming out of a relationship...even if she was the one who ended it.
Anyway, the details she had given me, made me curious about a few things(again some things that if I would've known earlier, I might not have dated her). The conversation always stayed in the back of my mind and would always come back to bother me. I didn't really want to bring it up to her again, because I felt that it was MY issue. Anyway, it did come up some more times over the past 2-3 months and each time the new details she gave me didn't really match with the old stuff. So things continued to stick in my mind and I was really frustrated because I wanted to just get over it and move on further into our relationship because everything else was good.
So flash forward to this past weekend. Things came up for the last time and I explained to her why things had been bothering me. So this time she gave me the true information and then when I asked her a few questions it tripped her up and I discovered that she had lied about a few of the major details like how long it had been since she broke up with him before she met me. I found out that it had only been like a week...and not 2 months like she had lied about over and over.
She told me that she really loved me (more than anyone else in her past)and knew that I wouldn't have dated her if I had known the details earlier on. So she continued to hide things and lie about it until I tripped her up and this late stage in the game.
Anyway, I forgave her for lying. BUt what should I do about it? After our talk she was in tears and felt really bad. I didn't get mad at her, just she realized it wasn't good.
I know that i definetely would have nexted her if I knew this info awhile back...but what should I do about it now? Should I let her off the hook completely and treat her like it never happened when she calls me(she just did but I was on the other line)? Or should I next her or put her on probation? Let me know what you would do. Thanks.
M.
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