"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Lieing about Age...and Telling?

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Before I started going out with my gf, I had lied about my age (being a year older than I really was)...I was actually 17, but I said I'm 18, turning 19. She was 19 turning 20.

I figured nothing would really materialize anyway. But now that my b-day is fast approaching, she still thinks I am a year older than I am. There are many instances where age comes up in convo, and I have to play it cool like I really am older.

So anyway, I'm caught in a minor dilemna...should I eventually tell her? Or should I just continue playing it cool?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you can just out right tell her like you don't care and that is doesn't matter.


say, "guess what? yeah... I bull****ed you about my age. I'm really only 18. yeah.. I didn't think you were worth much of anything then, but I guess I was wong. "
 

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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Before I started going out with my gf, I had lied about my age (being a year older than I really was)...I was actually 17, but I said I'm 18, turning 19. She was 19 turning 20.

I figured nothing would really materialize anyway. But now that my b-day is fast approaching, she still thinks I am a year older than I am. There are many instances where age comes up in convo, and I have to play it cool like I really am older.

So anyway, I'm caught in a minor dilemna...should I eventually tell her? Or should I just continue playing it cool?
Minor dilemma? Dude, this is a MAJOR dilemma. You lied. When she finds out that you lied about this she's going to wonder what else you've lied about. Never lie...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lying about your age is bad!

however , if you speak up now you might can salvage something.

what you need to say is, " i lied about my age because i felt that you would not give me the chance if i told you the truth. i hope that you can forgive me for this , but my intentions were good.
and now that you know me for who i am, even with my age, do you think that you would want to give me a chance"?


this should clear things up and she may act a little upset for a day or two, but be persistant... she will still be your girl.

if you call her and she tries to say , you are too young for me or something... say," you know you had a blast with me the other day. but whatever if thats the way you feel i will leave you alone ."

she will think about it and then call you right back.
 

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Have doggy style sex with her the day before your birthday.













Just in case.
 

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She already considers me to be young..usually she goes for older guys.

The problem is that if I told her, she would start thinking that I've been lieing about stuff all along, which isn't good.

At the same time, continuing to play that I'm older is producing more and more sub-lies, thus deepening it.
 

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Re: Re: Lieing about Age...and Telling?

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Minor dilemma? Dude, this is a MAJOR dilemma. You lied. When she finds out that you lied about this she's going to wonder what else you've lied about. Never lie...
So what should be done?
 

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Are you spending the day with her on your bday?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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