Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Library chicks

AlphaSoldier

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OK. Here it is a hard one to crack. How do you approach library check out clerks?

I mean, I've seeing this chick weekly for almost a year now. We chat (briefly) when I check out my books. She's been nice to me, smiling and all that jazz, but I guess it's just the usual politeness reserved for customers. I want to ask her out, but I don't have a clue on how to engage her in a conversation that might lead to a date.

Any input?

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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floydtheater07

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You could ask her for help finding a book. I once worked at a library, so usually they'll just redirect you to someone else, but it could work.
 

kdnash82

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I wouldn't go with help finding a book. I would go with her recommending you a book to read. This could open up all kinds of things.

She recommends you a book. She's gonna give you a description of the book. Depending on what it is, you can ask her all kinds of questions. Does she enjoy that type of thing. What other books has she read that's similar to it. Does the author always write those type of books. Have they made any movies from the book.

These are just examples. Don't continue to go on and on about the book. Eventually break off into other things. (What kinda things do you like to do besides reading? Do you have a peaceful spot outside your home that you like to read?) Also, don't hold her up with a bunch of questions. It's called a conversation for a reason. The goal here is to get her number. You can worry about asking her out over the telephone. That's what the first phone call is for. Absolutely nothing else.

This whole thing, from initial question to telephone number should transpire in about 3 minutes or less. Sounds like it's not enough time, but believe me it is. The phone conversation when you ask her out should be the same.

Good luck.
 
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