"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AlphaSoldier

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OK. Here it is a hard one to crack. How do you approach library check out clerks?

I mean, I've seeing this chick weekly for almost a year now. We chat (briefly) when I check out my books. She's been nice to me, smiling and all that jazz, but I guess it's just the usual politeness reserved for customers. I want to ask her out, but I don't have a clue on how to engage her in a conversation that might lead to a date.

Any input?

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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floydtheater07

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You could ask her for help finding a book. I once worked at a library, so usually they'll just redirect you to someone else, but it could work.
 

kdnash82

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I wouldn't go with help finding a book. I would go with her recommending you a book to read. This could open up all kinds of things.

She recommends you a book. She's gonna give you a description of the book. Depending on what it is, you can ask her all kinds of questions. Does she enjoy that type of thing. What other books has she read that's similar to it. Does the author always write those type of books. Have they made any movies from the book.

These are just examples. Don't continue to go on and on about the book. Eventually break off into other things. (What kinda things do you like to do besides reading? Do you have a peaceful spot outside your home that you like to read?) Also, don't hold her up with a bunch of questions. It's called a conversation for a reason. The goal here is to get her number. You can worry about asking her out over the telephone. That's what the first phone call is for. Absolutely nothing else.

This whole thing, from initial question to telephone number should transpire in about 3 minutes or less. Sounds like it's not enough time, but believe me it is. The phone conversation when you ask her out should be the same.

Good luck.
 
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