"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"I never understand why you guys are so stupid as to get dragged into the following situation:

You see a hot chick at a bar or a club and you say to her, "Can I buy you a drink?" And she says, "Sure! But only if you buy a drink for me AND my friends!" She motions over to a table where five or six cows are sitting having a "Girls Night Out" and you, hoping to get in the hot girl's pants, lay out $50 or so to buy drinks for women you will never see naked (and would never want to).

Have you ever done this? I have to know, has it ever, ever worked?

I have never seen it work. The fat and fuglies are the ones who, even if the girl of your choice likes you, will tear you down in her eyes. They will find every reason for her not to go home with you. Think about it: even if you are the biggest stud in the world, they will all be jealous of their friend meeting such a hot guy and they'll start saying things like "what a creep" or "It's hot in here" or "I feel sick" or "I need to go home. Are you guys ready?" They'll make fun of you for falling for one of the oldest tricks in the book: buying drinks for everyone to get into the hot girl's pants.

The art of "peeling off" when your friend gets laid is a guy thing, but it's not a girl thing. When a chick goes out with her sisters or multiple friends, they are letting you know that they are not there to get laid, but just to get attention. And when one of these chicks is waaaaaay hotter than the others, your girl is just letting her friends live off her fumes by taking the poor hogs out to feed from the trough a little bit while she shows off how much attention she can get by getting fools like you to jump through hoops for her.

A woman who is at the bar alone is a woman who needs companionship and, most often, sex. These are the women to spend your $40 or less on. Avoid women who go out in packs at all costs."-Tom Leykis
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What woman goes to a bar alone?

2-sets are a goldmine. Always assume they're DTF. Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces all night?

Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let herself be alone. Bring a good wingman.

3-sets are manageable.

4 or more and it's a pain the ass. These are the ones on a "girls night out" there to "just dance". The girls band together, the herd group-think mentality kicks in and suddenly every guy that dares approach is branded a "creeper". To successfully approach a girl you have to win over the MOTHER HEN AND HER FLOCK of friends or you WILL get stymied before you can try to get one alone - most younger girls will side with her friends over a "random", even if she finds you attractive. The herd force-field is strong.

Many of these girls are there to just hang with their girls/social circle and take pictures for Facebook. The ones in large groups are not really there to hook up with new men for whatever reason. If they want to have sex they'll booty-text their FB/FWB at the end of the night after getting their attention/validation fix for the night. Approaching these large groups is a suicide mission for most guys. Don't waste your time.
 

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spinaroonie said:
What woman goes to a bar alone?

2-sets are a goldmine. Always assume they're DTF. Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces all night?

Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let herself be alone. Bring a good wingman.

3-sets are manageable.

4 or more and it's a pain the ass.
Lone wolves do appear at bars sometimes, but are rare. They also tend to be older. Or it could be a business woman traveling who is in a strange city by herself. You might find this at a hotel bar.
 

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Buying women drinks is really stupid. Even if you do it out of sincerity, they're going to think you have an agenda to get them in bed.

On another note.. Tom Leykis is an idiot. If you take his advice on women, you're just going to end up heartless and paranoid. He just says all of that sh1t to get the ratings for his show.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alex DeLarge said:
Buying women drinks is really stupid. Even if you do it out of sincerity, they're going to think you have an agenda to get them in bed.

On another note.. Tom Leykis is an idiot. If you take his advice on women, you're just going to end up heartless and paranoid. He just says all of that sh1t to get the ratings for his show.
Some of his advice is ridiculous. For example, he said as soon as you finish having s@x, put your clothes on and leave. I'm sure that will go over well lol.

Or sit at the bar by yourself and eventually women will talk to you and try to take you home. Good luck with that one lol.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Or sit at the bar by yourself and eventually women will talk to you and try to take you home. Good luck with that one lol.
honestly, i've had women open me when i was at the bar alone trying to get a drink.

on the subject of buying drinks, i never buy chicks drinks unless i brought them with me.
 
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If a girl isn't my date, she isn't getting a penny of my hard earned money spent on her.

I see guys in clubs buying girls in clubs drinks all the time and I doubt many of them end up getting laid, unless it is with some low class piece of trash.

I do agree though, it seems easier to approach girls when they are in a two's or three's as opposed to being in large groups.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Tom Leykis is an idiot. If you take his advice on women, you're just going to end up heartless and paranoid. He just says all of that sh1t to get the ratings for his show.
I used to listen to his show and get a laugh here and there, but the dumbest thing he said was to: make sure you have a bottle of tobasco sauce so you can put some in the used condom before you throw it in the trash.

(if she tried to knock herself up with it...surprise surprise) like she wouldn't see or smell red hot sauce in it.

That's just dumb I flush 'em immediately (flushed 2 this morning lol)

Someone called him out on it and said that was stupid, just flush them, then he went into a rant about how it's bad for the sewer to flush rubbers.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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